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In any kind of relationship, whether it be a spousal or otherwise, a basic level of confidentiality is essential. A simple, unemotional relationship like a doctor/patient relationship requires it too.
With the information provided, I suspect the son hasn't been given enough responsibility as a man by his parents -- in this case, his mother. Even after his marriage, he seems dependent on his mother for her approval and permission. As some of you have described, it is usually termed as 'mama's boy'.
The advice for the wife would be for her to soften her personality overall with the husband. This includes her tone of voice, her actions, her language. What the husband needs, which he doesn't know he does, is a dose of dependance from another person on him. Make him feel like he is the man. Ask him for his opinions, his 'permission', his help in everyday life. Even for doing things you are completely independent, ask for his help. The more he feels he has something to be accountable for, he more he'll feel he needs to make proper decisions on the spot.
People like this man have been overshadowed by their mothers who need to control others to validate themselves. His mother has made him believe she is only one he should trust and 'obey'. It's not his fault, its just the way he was raised.
Remember, any sort of harshness from your side towards him will not only be reported to his mother, but will cost you his trust. Work with him, sway him to your side. Build that trust so he trusts you more than her.
This will be a gradual change with preliminary disappointments, but if you don't plan on a divorce and want this to work, hang it there and give it a shot.
Patience and deep breaths.
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