Sorry for the long reply.
Before taking any step I would like to discuss with her the matter in detail, and try to find out her reasons. If she convinces me that she is leaving them only because of laziness and carelessness,...then I would follow my Plan. (by the grace and mercy of Allah (s.w.t)
Such matters are usually situation sensitive. One has to deal with the spouse in terms of his/her psychology.
I can't be angry at her, because Allah (s.w.t) has not appointed me a "Thanedar" (police inspector) to force her to do anything.
I can't remain "unworried" in my daily life behavior because the following hadith would constantly bother me
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Narrated 'Abdullah bin 'Umar: Allah's Apostle said, "Surely! Everyone of you is a guardian and is responsible for his charges: The Imam (ruler) of the people is a guardian and is responsible for his subjects; a man is the guardian of his family (household) and is responsible for his subjects; a woman is the guardian of her husband's home and of his children and is responsible for them; and the slave of a man is a guardian of his master's property and is responsible for it. Surely, everyone of you is a guardian and responsible for his charges."
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So, it
IS my responsibility to do "something" because if my beloved wife is intentionally making my beloved Allah unhappy, then I have to do something to resolve this relationship, as I love both Allah (s.w.t) and my wife, otherwise how would I be able to sleep comfortably. I need to do something
BUT keeping in mind how does her psychology works.
Hmm.. Lets see,...
Does she gets motivated and realize her mistake if I start telling her the attributes of Allah (s.w.t) ? Allah (s.w.t) has been so kind to us all our lives, He keeps giving us even when we are disobedient to HIM. He has made us more privileged than most of the people around us........(Imaan is strengthened by mentioning of Allah's attributes).
BUT if she is not ready to listen, then I have to follow PLAN (B). I would cut short my chit chat, frank talks and switch to silent treatment....etc. If she asks me the reason of this, I would humbly tell her,
" My beloved wife, I love you very much !! BUT how can I remain happy with you while you are intentionally making unhappy someone who is more dear to me than you. Secondly, I love you very much and it is not possible for me to let you do such a sin that might become a cause for your entering hell or a reason for the nature to punish you in this world. I don't want anything to cause you pain. And I am sure you would also try to do anything to stop me if I try to harm myself in anyway because you love me. And you shouldn't allow me to disobey Allah because you love Allah more than me. Remember, if Allah is not happy with us, our relationship can never survive, because there won't be any "barakah" (blessings) in it"
Meanwhile I would keep praying to Allah (s.w.t) to bless her with the realization of this important duty, because my efforts are of no value if there is no "Barakah" (blessings) of Allah (s.w.t) in them.
I might be wrong in some places. Allah knows BEST! May Allah (s.w.t) guide us all towards the right path. Ameen!