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Originally Posted by Faisal
Why you stopped at bistar alag?  There are muslims (men, mostly) who'd argue that Islam allows a husband to beat his wife (lightly, of course) if she doesn't obey her husband in matters of religion. While I don't disagree with the premise of this "permission" nor do I question the authenticity of this (pls no long cut-paste here on this), its not something I personally subscribe too. So while some men think its ok to beat their wife, and believe that Islam actually allows it, I prefer to use my own judgement on this.
Secondly, it helps to give your spouse some credit for using their own brain cells. If their judgement is so poor that they can't make the right decisions for themselves, even after you have given them good advice, then actually you have bigger problems in your life than you realize.
And lastly, roza depends a lot on niyyat. As we all know, merely starving is not roza. So whats the point of beating your wife (or husband) or getting angry over it, to make them comply? This logic is a bit too mind-boggling for me to comprehend. I am guessing smarter people here have this figured out. |
Faisal Bhai, I stopped at Bistar alag because i wasn't sure what the next step was. So i thought tat i rather stop there than saying something wrong....
And about beating your wife.. In islam where it says kay beat ur wife.. I actually did some research on it.. and I was listening to this guy's lecture.. Yousuf something.. He said kay apparantly the word "Beat" in arabic means "Touch your wife gently" , so that she doesn't get any marks or any signs of being beaten... So if the next step is beating up ur wife than tat is touching her very gently..
Well yes that person would have a greater of a problem if their spouse is soo empty headed not to understand the benefits of Month of ramandan.. and if she/he doesn't have the niyyat for it.. Now How do u fix that problem? Us ko us kay haal pe chordayna? yeah to buzdili howi na....
Maybe your right about all this or maybe iam wrong.. but i think after all one can't sit and watch something wrong happening, especially if that damage is happening in their own house...