Originally Posted by Faisal

Actually lothario (nice nick, BTW), I am very serious when I recommend professional marriage counselling.

One or two things wrong here and there, people here can provide good tips to turn things around. What we have here is pretty much a train wreck. There are just way too many things wrong. Both of you need to re-engineer your lives and attitudes. This is beyond the scope of an online discussion forum. Seriously.