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Originally Posted by Ma Mooli
well she can phone him back and tell him 1) she's thought about it and she doesnt agree with the conditions, and 2) that they shouldve made all this clear before the nikah (knowing that she was a student).
anywyas, put the ball in their court, get your parents on your side, and take it from there....and should it go ahead, get a written agreement so they cant really go back on it later on.
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This is probably the best option. Though, judging from the conservative/traditional nature of the two families, I'd advise against a written agreement, it might be seen as too bold/forward by boy's side (i.e. seen as an indication the girl wants to ride on their heads). Just a verbal commitment, agreed by both the families should be sufficient.
Can't believe such people/parents still exist in such a age. These are the matters that need to pinned down before making a lifelong commitment. Both sides' parents, and even the groom himself (through his parents, if both sides are really conservative), should've made this clear before. I don't see any wrong in a man seeking a traditional wife for himself, but, given the age we are living in, he should've communicated beforehand what his expectations while the two families were negotiating.
Primarily its the duty of girl's parents consider such things, where their daughter is going, and if she fully understands and accepts (read approve) the future they're planning for her.