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cricketplaya · Sep 6th, 2008, 01:07 AM

hmm, not a parent, inshAllah one day..

but as a brother of 4 young ones, i think let the child go and play by themselves and explore the wolrd. maybe we're living two different cities but i mean it's NOT that of a danger, it's not Palestine we're living in..

i know a family who do not let their kids go anywhere without supervision, uncle ji relax! they're like 10-14 and still they are told stories of how people can kidnap you if you go alone... one funny story, my brothers (7 and 10) go out to the local store to buy stuff now and then, they took those kids along with them, and what do those kids say to my brothers? "MY DAD SAID, DON'T GO LIKE THIS, WE CAN GET KIDNAPPED" i was laughing and at the same time worried about those kids! what kind of parent are you, telling kids these things, yes you have to but don't overdo it! the kid will grow up like "mummy's boy" all his life.

you should set rules for the kids, can't go there, come back at this time..etc but do not tell them that they will get picked up by some kalla on the street.

as for freedom, you do your job as a parent and leave rest to Allah.

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cricketplaya Senior Member Join Date: Dec 31, 2005 - 12:15 am Location: Canada Posts: 5,593 Blog Entries: 28	hmm, not a parent, inshAllah one day.. but as a brother of 4 young ones, i think let the child go and play by themselves and explore the wolrd. maybe we're living two different cities but i mean it's NOT that of a danger, it's not Palestine we're living in.. i know a family who do not let their kids go anywhere without supervision, uncle ji relax! they're like 10-14 and still they are told stories of how people can kidnap you if you go alone... one funny story, my brothers (7 and 10) go out to the local store to buy stuff now and then, they took those kids along with them, and what do those kids say to my brothers? "MY DAD SAID, DON'T GO LIKE THIS, WE CAN GET KIDNAPPED" i was laughing and at the same time worried about those kids! what kind of parent are you, telling kids these things, yes you have to but don't overdo it! the kid will grow up like "mummy's boy" all his life. you should set rules for the kids, can't go there, come back at this time..etc but do not tell them that they will get picked up by some kalla on the street. as for freedom, you do your job as a parent and leave rest to Allah. Islam cannot accept or agree to a situation which is half-Islam and half-Jahiliyyah ... The mixing and co-existence of the truth and falsehood is impossible.