sweetmoi, the maid comes once or twice a month, depending on how social we've been
its a really big help - you should consider it!
X2, you were raised well! kudos to your mommeh! the hubs moved out when he was 18 and his mom was really strict too when they were growing up, so he's pretty disciplined. more than myself, actually. i'm embarassed to admit it, but i had that ludicrous princess mentality when i first moved out and it was
not pretty! we weren't living together at the time, not being married and all that, so i found it extra difficult to manage things, even though it was just me! i didn't even know how to plan a meal and grocery shop for it
silly, silly, SGC, i know!
thankfully, a lot of time and patience on the hubby's part and a lot of learning on mine, and now i'm a pro at the cooking, cleaning, organising and staying on top of things!
also when theres two of you plus two cats, there is simply not much opportunity to get messy or let things slide beyond a day or two-- its entirely too chaotic.
my point is, these are things that can be learned- its absolutely not a situation of "my mother never taught me, so therefore i refuse to lift a finger for the rest of my life". all it does is cause damage to your relatioship, IMHO, and i think the girls who are complaining, need to stop complaining, accept the reality of the situation, and get with it already.