I've pretty much been through all the threads on GS. Whenever I see a new idea, I just paste it into "shaadi.doc". So now I have this list, which I think covers every subject posted in the wedding forum. Tell me if I've missed anything.
Prewedding
- Wedding ring
- Invitations-style/wording/decide where to order from
- Eat well/workout so you look radiant.
- Skin treatments if needed.
- Manicure/Pedicure
- Dental cleaning
- Gifts for in-laws
- if it's your friend's wedding, practice a mehndi song for her. she'll be happy even if u jump around like a bandar.
- Spanx
- Lingerie aka 'nyt wearrr' on GS
- Brazilian...
- Decide if nikah separate or as part of the shaadi.
- Imam for Nikah.
- Non-ugly Pen for Nikah (lol)
- Accomodation for Guests
- Organize airport pickups/dropoffs
- maybe..contraception
Mehndi Planning
- Guest List
- Venue
- Date
- Mehndi Artists
- Mehndi Theme (if any)
- Menu/Caterer/Maybe Homecooked food?
- Stage Decoration
- Outfit
- Shoes
- Purse
- Makeup (can be done by yourself for mehndi)
- Hairstyle
- Mithai
- Photographer
- Videographer
- Thaals
- Dholak
- Song List on computer/CD
- Printed lyrics in Roman Urdu if needed
- extra: jhula
- extra: paranda
Wedding
- Guest List
- Bridal Lengha-color/style/designer
- Shoes
- Purse
- Jewellery
- Makeup Artist
- Hair-stylist/design/remember u have to wash it out at nite
- Venue-hotel, field with tents, garden, big backyard, etc
- Menu-does hotel allow outside food?/presentation: servers or buffet?
- Wedding Cake
- Wedding Table Decorations
- Photographer
- Videographer
- Entrance Song (or bagpipes/flute/dhol)
- Petals (sometimes thrown when bride enters)
- Car or Limo to Hotel
- Hotel
- extra: dhol player
- extra: wedding favors
- extra: bhangra dancers
- extra: DJ
Walima
- Guest List
- Walima outfit-color/style/designer
- Shoes
- Purse
- Jewellery
- Makeup Artist
- Hairstylist
- Venue
- Menu
- Stage
- Table Decorations
- Table Placecards
- Photographer
- Videographer
- Getaway car
Not necessary but some extra functions people do.
- Dholki-idk what the diff is between this and mehndi..
- Mayoun-when ppl put yellow stuff (ubtan) on your face.
- Maklawa-Idk much about this; apparently it's a sleepover at the bride's house.
- Honeymoon (destination/airfare/hotel/car/activities).
Another thing which is not really a function, but it's a good idea. If a lot of the guests are travelling from far away, you can host a very casual breakfast on the first floor of the hotel everyone is staying at. We went to a shaadi where they did this; everyone was in their American clothes getting ready for the airport, and it gave us a chance to all meet and say bye before leaving.
This better not become a thread about how marriages are so ostentatious and everyone needs to get married in a courthouse in their pajamas. pshhhh...some are...but people can pick and choose the elements they like.