Originally Posted by alvena

hey,

something i have never really disclosed on here is that there has been a man in my life for the past 3 years, it isnt a full on realtionship, but we have always been there for eachother, we knew we had feelings for eachother and always some kind of loyality, we talked about telling our parents when the time was right and just hoping that it worked out, if it didnt that was just kismat.

We have always been good friends, sharing things and spending alot of time togther and things have always been happy stable and good.

My parents have started to try and look for rishtas for me, and i never objected because nothing very serious came up and that is also why i never told them about him and him about my rishtas, i was just waiting for the right time to avoid uncessessary heartache, i always thought if my parents found someone where there was nothing to say no to and they said no to him i would never object, my parents happiness is very important.

Also me and this guy have very different backgrounds and social staus and views and language so maybe we wouldnt have been perfect despite our feelings.

On friday he told me that he doesnt have feelings for me anymore.

I was devastated very hurt, he said its best if we just be friends and he has loved me but now its just care. He has suddenly noticed all the other women in the world, and maybe we got into this too quick too soon.

I have also had my own issues where i have been very busy and withdrawn, and stressed, and not spent much time with him, he hasnt really tried to help me but avoided me, i always assumed he was giving me space.

We study together, i dont know what to do! how to deal with it.

SHould i accept it, talk, cry, move on?

ahhh