bhenjee

Alvena, there's really no defining moment in a relationship when you would know that you've grown apart. Happens with time. If he's embraced this before you did and he told you about it, all the better. Maybe it got too monotonous for him. You're angry and sad b/c obviously that's like having the ground snatched off your feet when you know you're kinda lonely now. You can't call him/ text him/ write to him, just share with him any little issue that was bugging you like you did before, esp the prime satisfaction of knowing thatyou have someone there foryou.. And please, don't revert back to him even in your weakest moment.

You can't obv pretend like all's hunkydory. Guys prolly don't show it as much as girls do but he's goin thru the same situation as you too. It's not like he's suddenly another person and he doesn't remember anything to do with you. But he knows enough that he wants to look around. He doesn't want to settle down with you. Life doesn't always work like the movies. It's no use listening to sad songs, or vengeful songs wishing that he cherished you, or that he will never find someonline like you and blah...

Crying and dwelling over the past helps pass time, but nothing more. You can't bring him back, and think it over. WHY do you want him back? He wont be able to give his all to you for sure and he's already told you that. If you were painting a happy picture of your future with you sharing and laughing together, think it this way: it was all YOUR imagination! In reality, it didn't exist, rather wont exist.

Give it some time, you will eventually feel better. If you keep on crying or thinking it over, you will get deeper into the blues which again is your loss. This world is full of guys.. what tells you that you missed???? Maybe (insha'Allah) your future beholds every happiness that's far beyond your comprehension. Why don't you wait for that instead???