Oh man Alvena. When a guy talks like that, it basically means he's wanting OUT. You have to understand that. He's only 21/22.... not exactly the age when guys want to commit. I am telling you from personal experience. I knew someone like that who dragged his gf like that for 5-6 years.. It was hell for her to move on. Oh and not to forget the on again/ off again painful part of the relationship. LIke you said, that's exactly what they would do...
not talk for some time (I would be the mediator since I'm very close friends with them both ) and they would be curious abt each other all the time. And then this one weak moment and they would be together again, but tell you what, my friend was the one who suffered. The guy was doing pretty good
And that's just what he would say to her all the time. I don't like you anymore, and later he would confess I said that b/c I didn't want to hurt you. That's all BS sweetie!! You need to use your noggin. This is no longer a matter of the heart. And when we thought he couldn't get any more mean, in one of thos "off again" phases, he got engaged to this other girl who was his classs mate in uni ... My friend was devastated. This was the time when we'd sent a rishta for her from one of my cousins and she refused that and so many others. Until one fine day,. like 2-3 years down the road he was totally out of her life. Like I'm sure she still remembers him and all but she was still totally baggage free when her husband-to-be came along in her life. She's Insha'Allah gettin hooked up end of this year and she couldn't be happier. She obv never even mentions her past.. doesn't even care for it. Oh and her ex who had gotten engaged to that girl .. wel he's still hangin on there. He's still not married.. Ive a feeling taht it's just karma. He will possibly drag the other girl thru just like that... don't see him getting committed anytime soon!
Learn from our experiences... don't hurt yourself. There's always a better day tomorrow
