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alvena · Jun 26th, 2009, 09:59 PM

bhenjee your posts are very honest and helpful however, i do believe and he still tells me that i was/am his best friend and mean alot to him.

We were in the library now and were just chatting on the way back.

Im slowly recovering and pain is going away and it shows, he can see it.

He said, 'your doing really well your being strong and its good for you, i just want you to know that you mean alot to me no matter what, i just wish we had met 2-3 years later not in the beginning of the course and not at age 18/19'. I said 'you know what thats life we both just have to deal with it, it was your decision and i respect it and if you dont want me you dont deserve me.'

The more i get back on the my own two feet the more he chats to me and we can get along and enjoy eachothers company again.

He said the main main reason for him taking this action is he started to enjoy other girls company and he felt this was not fair on me at all because he enjoyed it in a way he shouldnt have if he had mega strong feelings for me, so it kind of maybe realised that he loves me a little less than before, but he says that now he is no longer committed to me, he is not interested in other girls! boys are so confusing!

He cant handle attachment, someone relying on him emotionally i think thats his main issue, i think he is emotionally immature.

The pain for me has become less and less everyday, im slowly getting my life back on track, yes i still cry in the night but i dont cry in the day i dont feel horrible all of the time.

Today we both found out that the news has spread around the whole class (500) both of us were shocked, some people are happy that this happened, for a long time many many people spread rumors about us trying to cause trouble between us but our friendship was strong enough to not be affected. People said all sorts things through maybe jealousy. My ears are burning.

One thing that i am dreading facing is seeing him with another girl, but he is convinced that at the moment he just wants to be alone detached and sort out his own life.

If he doesnt want me he doesnt deserve me.

Jun 26th, 2009, 09:59 PM	#51 (permalink)
alvena Senior Member Join Date: Feb 20, 2009 - 2:37 pm Posts: 799	bhenjee your posts are very honest and helpful however, i do believe and he still tells me that i was/am his best friend and mean alot to him. We were in the library now and were just chatting on the way back. Im slowly recovering and pain is going away and it shows, he can see it. He said, 'your doing really well your being strong and its good for you, i just want you to know that you mean alot to me no matter what, i just wish we had met 2-3 years later not in the beginning of the course and not at age 18/19'. I said 'you know what thats life we both just have to deal with it, it was your decision and i respect it and if you dont want me you dont deserve me.' The more i get back on the my own two feet the more he chats to me and we can get along and enjoy eachothers company again. He said the main main reason for him taking this action is he started to enjoy other girls company and he felt this was not fair on me at all because he enjoyed it in a way he shouldnt have if he had mega strong feelings for me, so it kind of maybe realised that he loves me a little less than before, but he says that now he is no longer committed to me, he is not interested in other girls! boys are so confusing! He cant handle attachment, someone relying on him emotionally i think thats his main issue, i think he is emotionally immature. The pain for me has become less and less everyday, im slowly getting my life back on track, yes i still cry in the night but i dont cry in the day i dont feel horrible all of the time. Today we both found out that the news has spread around the whole class (500) both of us were shocked, some people are happy that this happened, for a long time many many people spread rumors about us trying to cause trouble between us but our friendship was strong enough to not be affected. People said all sorts things through maybe jealousy. My ears are burning. One thing that i am dreading facing is seeing him with another girl, but he is convinced that at the moment he just wants to be alone detached and sort out his own life. If he doesnt want me he doesnt deserve me. Last edited by alvena; Jun 27th, 2009 at 07:43 AM..