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Originally Posted by Chicken Biryani
well , there is no question of "still considered a taboo " .... it should be held as a taboo, at least for muslims.
There are exceptions always when a man and a woman have seriously genuine issues to get divorced. It is acceptable.
But generally it shouldnt become an acceptable norm at all , like its become in the west, every time a divorce happens , Allah's Abode shudders with extreme sadness ... Divorce is satan's best strategy against humans ... its all in the sunnah and is highly discouraged in Islam.
Marrying a divorcee , I would think a million times , and unless i am absolutely convinced that there was a huge and a genuine reason for divorce , I will never ever consider that individual for marriage. A person who lost it once can lose it again ... and no matter how sorry a state they are in , they are not worth my attention. specially when their actions were so against Allah's word.
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What do you mean by "lost it" CB? not everyone that gets a divorced has "lost it".
Most of us here know that divorce is disliked by Allah (SWT) and is discouraged unless there are extreme circumstances for doing so. However, lets keep in mind it is not haram and it is a RIGHT given to us by Allah SWT as well. A right that should be used as a last resort of course. Often times that's whats best for person and their family. So how is divorce an action against Allah's word when it is allowed?
For some, there is no other way out and staying in a marriage that is doomed can be unhealthy for everyone involved especially after they have exhausted all options.
Allah SWT see's and knows all..and only He knows whats in our hearts and minds. It's best not to judge and assume the worst about a person just because they are divorced until we know both sides of the story.
Now getting back to the topic...
Unfortunately in our culture it is difficult for a woman to get remarried...even more so if she has kids. For men it is still very much possible. However, now that times are changing and finding the right person is getting more difficult, people are willing to keep more of an open mind and look beyond the surface. They are willing to accept a person that is divorced and/or divorced with kids if everything else is perfect.
The way i see it....accepting another persons child(ren) with open arms and treating them as your own and giving another human being a second chance in life has it's own rewards.