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why do we have divorces so common these days ? what were our previous generations doing so different that it wasnt that common ,given that most had arranged marriages whilst today's generations are much at liberty to choose partners of their choice ?
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Not exactly true. Depends on the culture and time period. In many Islamic cultures and eras, divorce wasn't uncommon at all.
Now I'll grant you in desi culture, if you're speaking of the generation of our parents and grandparents, then yes. Divorce wasn't so common. I'll even grant you that many of them were patient, "stuck it out" when things got tough, and were quite happy in their marriages. But not all of them. Many were forced to marry people they disliked, were beaten, mentally abused, not looked after properly by their spouses, abandoned, etc. but they still didn't get divorced. I'm sure they wanted to, but at that time, divorce was such a stigma that they wouldn't dare even say the word, much less initiate action to go through with it. For women, not only would they carry a massive stain on their reps and probably never marry again if they divorced, but they would have no means to support themselves or their children. In most cases, the woman's family would make it clear that they'd have nothing to do with her if she obtained a divorce so she couldn't even go to them for help if she tried to go through with it. Since education wasn't as emphasized in most families back then (as it is now), the woman would find herself up the proverbial creek without even a freaking life vest.
That's a very prominent reason why divorce wasn't "common" in previous generations. They weren't doing anything different. They had the same resentments and desire to get out of the marriages that people do today...they just couldn't do anything about it.