Originally Posted by Sahar02

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My cousin (male, never-married before) had admired a woman when he was searching for a rishta, but found out she was already engaged or married. When he saw her a few years later, he was still searching, and heard that she had had a divorce and had a daughter. He decided to pursue a rishta with her. She came from a good Pakistani family, and he really seemed to like her.

Many people in the family were upset. I actually heard elders use the terms "used goods," etc, when they heard his choice. I was appalled that people could talk of another human being in that manner.

Anyway, in the end they did marry, and seem happy together. It's been over 10 years. But the stigma did exist for the woman. My cousin was just very strong about what he wanted.