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Originally Posted by njgal
Smilestar - one of my best friends in college marriad her college sweetheart. They had been going out for 4 years. They got married and ended up getting divorced. (i will not go into why they did)
The guy remarried after 2 years. He has 2 kids
She was about to get married and the rishta just backed out. (Again people blame her)
I always hear "taali do haath say bajti hai" - but why is it that one haath is always better off the the other one
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i'm divorced, or rather have been divorced. i have a 4 and a half year old son from my previous marriage. it is very, very difficult for a women from our culture to get remarried. firstly, being divorced is a taboo in itself. on top of that, having a child..it's almost impossible to find a decent rishta for yourself again. regardless of why the divorced happened, even if the girl was not at fault, it's always assumed that the girl didn't try hard enough or work hard enough to make the marriage work. but we all have a breaking point, yeah? maybe someone can go further than the next person, but there's only so much we can take.
i have been blessed to have strong support from my immediate family, and i never felt that i wasn't welcomed back home. if it wasn't for them, i don't think i would have left my previous marriage.
but alhumdulillah a million times over, i am married to the most sweet and understanding guy now. he fully accepts and loves my son as his, and has never made me feel bad or given me any 'tanay' for what's happened in the past. but, my extended family continues to look down upon the fact that i got married again. as if, now that i'm divorced, my life is over and i can no longer get married again
so at the end of it..yes, it's very difficult for a divorcee to get married, but there are a few gems out there that actually make life worth living again.
