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Originally Posted by njgal
Smilestar - one of my best friends in college marriad her college sweetheart. They had been going out for 4 years. They got married and ended up getting divorced. (i will not go into why they did)
The guy remarried after 2 years. He has 2 kids
She was about to get married and the rishta just backed out. (Again people blame her)
I always hear "taali do haath say bajti hai" - but why is it that one haath is always better off the the other one
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Yes I felt that too that the women are made to face alot of negative emotion as compared to men ..
Women , are more vulnerable perhaps , and easy target hence are naturally taken at fault , I believe women are generally let down by their own families who incorporate in their minds that now that they are divorced they wont be able to find a good life .. this can eventually lead to low self esteem and greatly affects ones self defence mechanism ...
I know someone very closely who was a victim of domestic violence , after the divorce the parents somehow avoided talking about the real reasons behind the divorce , with the potential rishta's .. I found it quite odd coz she had a very valid reason and was purely innocent and the last thing she needed was rejection .... but the parents insisted it ws too dishonouring to talk about what really happened etc for fear that relatives will lash back at them for bad judgement in choosing the fellow etc ... I realized it was happening because she was vulnerable and scared to speak up for herself after what happened the first time , lost confidence in her own decisions and didnt want to let down her parents ....
Compared to her the ex husband , got married within 2 months of their divorce ! I still cant fathom why we tend to believe the male perspective so easily and ignore the female perspective so conveniently ..