Originally Posted by mysticalrain

eclairs.. i really pray that Allah gives you alot of strength and its true.. there are times that u cant d anything more than wat you have already done -

i got married really young too - loved him to pieces - ad pretty much gave up every single 'asaaish' to be with him - but til this day i have never regretted anything that i did to get out of that marriage - as far as i can remember i was a good bahu, wife, bhabi but no matter what i did it was never good enuff for him or his family - he was pretty abusive (i still have a mark on my neck from when he strangled me once), always after my money cuz he didnt work himself and cudnt get a decent job anywhere - so i quit my studies to work fulltime at a bank to support us - his family then moved in with us - and thats when things just got to a point where i cudnt think - i started counselling sessions with a shrink and whenevr the shrink asked me about abuse i would say NO thinking how the hell will i get out of this - i never told my parents until one day i emailed my khala and told her everything - i told her i didnt want my parents to get worried and do something but i know for a fact that if i dont leave im not going to live anymore -

my ex-in-laws used to ask me how much my accidental death benefits were thru my work and then one day i came home to my FIL speaking with someone over the phone about how he thinks he's got his hands on a jackpot thru me (he spoke about either setting the house on fire when i was alone or failing the breaks in the car so that i would die) - and after hearing that, that was it - the next day i called the cops and got escorted out of that hellhole -
filed for divorce - it took me 2 yrs to get out of that rutt! but Alhumdulillah after that i gathered the courage to trust people again and taking my parents word - i decided to give marriage another shot - and Alhumdulillah havent looked back ever since!

I dont know what else i could have done - knowing that if i stayed there any longer i would hve ended up dead!


bringing back a marriage thats on the rocks due to issues between 2 people on a level of miscommunication or misunderstandings might be resolvable - but something that involves abuse, or cheating of ANY kind doesnt really deserve a second chance - jo banda eik baar aisa kar sakta hai woh baar baar aisa kar sakta hai -