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Originally Posted by Mamaof3
My take on it is that he wants to confess his sins to his wife in order to ease his own guilty conscience. He will feel "better" coming clean but his wife will likely be devastated. His confession would be yet another selfish act on his part.
If he is truly sorry and wants to come clean then all he needs to do is live a clean life. Cherish and honor his wife and keep his guilty conscience to himself until his day of judgement comes and then he can tell it to The Judge.
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I completely agree with Mo3 ... Thanks mate for putting it in words so smoothly.
Usually the thought comes , if he doesnt accept his follies now and face the brunt for his actions, would he be able to resist having another affair a few months down the road? coz human nature dictates , once you get away with something so serious , you can be tempted again thinking you will get away yet again !
However on the other hand, when I read advises from scholars they say exactly what Mo3 has said, that if a person genuinely repents and promises himself not to break the code of trust again, then no need to tell his wife as that will only cause immense problems in their marriage. He should seek forgiveness from God for his deeds.