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djmi · Jul 3rd, 2009, 04:02 PM

Im a divorcee with one child. I separated while i was pregnant,
it was the hardest time in my life. The emotional and verbal abuse started
as soon as i got married, and it followed with physical abuse while i was pregnant.
I was living in a joint family. My inlaws would fill my ex against me as soon as he got back from work. Everyday i had to listen to his yelling, then i would quietly cry.
One day he beat me up really hard. I felt humuliated, ashamed, i felt my soul crush while i was lying there with a life inside me. There was a complete black out, i wasnt unconcious but i stopped thinking, i couldnt think.It took a while to get my thoughts back.
I just wanted my baby to be alive in me. I was left alone in the room, while all my in laws were in the house avoiding me.

Cut long story short, i left him. He didnt avail the opportunity of living outside pakistan and seeing his own son. If he had, i wouldve lived with him for the sake of my son. But he divorced me, and that too in a most low and deceptive manner.

If you ask me, i dont regret anything. Had i gone back to him, i wouldve been
beaten up everyday infront of my own son, but alhumdulillah he ended it himself.
Im now recovering from divorce and have a baby to look after.

Yes i do wish there was more investigation and getting to know time before tying the knot, then it wouldve made a difference.

Jul 3rd, 2009, 04:02 PM	#51 (permalink)
djmi Member Join Date: Jan 24, 2009 - 12:32 am Posts: 124	Im a divorcee with one child. I separated while i was pregnant, it was the hardest time in my life. The emotional and verbal abuse started as soon as i got married, and it followed with physical abuse while i was pregnant. I was living in a joint family. My inlaws would fill my ex against me as soon as he got back from work. Everyday i had to listen to his yelling, then i would quietly cry. One day he beat me up really hard. I felt humuliated, ashamed, i felt my soul crush while i was lying there with a life inside me. There was a complete black out, i wasnt unconcious but i stopped thinking, i couldnt think.It took a while to get my thoughts back. I just wanted my baby to be alive in me. I was left alone in the room, while all my in laws were in the house avoiding me. Cut long story short, i left him. He didnt avail the opportunity of living outside pakistan and seeing his own son. If he had, i wouldve lived with him for the sake of my son. But he divorced me, and that too in a most low and deceptive manner. If you ask me, i dont regret anything. Had i gone back to him, i wouldve been beaten up everyday infront of my own son, but alhumdulillah he ended it himself. Im now recovering from divorce and have a baby to look after. Yes i do wish there was more investigation and getting to know time before tying the knot, then it wouldve made a difference.