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redvelvet · Jul 3rd, 2009, 05:39 PM

You can try various strategies to making a marriage work......but there are some things that are not to be tolerated such as frequent abuse. Abuse is not only confined to hitting. Even emotional/psychological abuse will chip away at your soul. And when the marriage becomes dysfunctional to the point that it's beyond repair...............at that point the question is NOT "how should I avoid divorce?"... but.... rather it's "How do I liberate myself from this degrading hell-hole?" If you've given the marriage your best shot and things are only getting worse....it can be a comfort to the victim to know that divorce is not prohibited in Islam.

Allah does not like divorce BUT He has still allowed it.....it's not forbidden. There are things worse than divorce that Allah has prohibited/forbidden. For example, in Hadith Qudsi, Allah has said, "O My servants, I have forbidden oppression for Myself and have made it forbidden amongst you, so do not oppress one another." And oppression can take place in a marriage/family as well......and in my opinion it is a valid grounds for divorce especially when despite efforts to salvage the relationship.......things are only getting worse.

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redvelvet Senior Member Join Date: Dec 30, 2008 - 9:30 pm Posts: 4,494	You can try various strategies to making a marriage work......but there are some things that are not to be tolerated such as frequent abuse. Abuse is not only confined to hitting. Even emotional/psychological abuse will chip away at your soul. And when the marriage becomes dysfunctional to the point that it's beyond repair...............at that point the question is NOT "how should I avoid divorce?"... but.... rather it's "How do I liberate myself from this degrading hell-hole?" If you've given the marriage your best shot and things are only getting worse....it can be a comfort to the victim to know that divorce is not prohibited in Islam. Allah does not like divorce BUT He has still allowed it.....it's not forbidden. There are things worse than divorce that Allah has prohibited/forbidden. For example, in Hadith Qudsi, Allah has said, "O My servants, I have forbidden oppression for Myself and have made it forbidden amongst you, so do not oppress one another." And oppression can take place in a marriage/family as well......and in my opinion it is a valid grounds for divorce especially when despite efforts to salvage the relationship.......things are only getting worse. Last edited by redvelvet; Jul 3rd, 2009 at 06:00 PM..