Originally Posted by redvelvet

You can try various strategies to making a marriage work......but there are some things that are not to be tolerated such as frequent abuse. Abuse is not only confined to hitting. Even emotional/psychological abuse will chip away at your soul. And when the marriage becomes dysfunctional to the point that it's beyond repair...............at that point the question is NOT "how should I avoid divorce?"... but.... rather it's "How do I liberate myself from this degrading hell-hole?" If you've given the marriage your best shot and things are only getting worse....it can be a comfort to the victim to know that divorce is not prohibited in Islam.

Allah does not like divorce BUT He has still allowed it.....it's not forbidden. There are things worse than divorce that Allah has prohibited/forbidden. For example, in Hadith Qudsi, Allah has said, "O My servants, I have forbidden oppression for Myself and have made it forbidden amongst you, so do not oppress one another." And oppression can take place in a marriage/family as well......and in my opinion it is a valid grounds for divorce especially when despite efforts to salvage the relationship.......things are only getting worse.

Originally Posted by Tayyebeh

Uggh this whole point of view is so desi seriously...I mean if you don't leave the guy your kids will witness how you are beaten up every day, your son might think it's a normal thing to do to a girl, your daughter will think the same and is likely to suffer the same fate if you don't teach her that she is more worth than that...

I agree that most people don't investigate enough, my friend's sister was married at the age of 16 to a guy from whom they thought he was shareef for he was always attending the masjid. He too became physically abusive towards her and ended up beating her down with a chair, he hit her until the freaking chair broke, then he dragged her outside and locked the house, she was forced to walk all the way to her next relatives from whom she borrowed money in order to travel to her parents' home. Those log were Turkish by the way.

I support everything Mabrook said, one should definately be informed about the circumstances of why the marriage ended and also it should become public, those kind of people don't deserve respect.
A man who hits his wife while she is carrying his child? That's just a low human being in my book, a coward who has no respect for anything so he shouldn't be given any back, nor should he get so many chances to re-marry while his ex-wife remains secluded and is disregarded by the community...