redvelvet

Hi Simply Seema,

I understand that the wife's father passed away. But surely she must have some family. Does she have any other relative ( a mother, sibling, uncle/aunt, grandparent) that carries some authority, is fair-minded, and might be able to talk some sense into her? Is it possible to arrange for a discussion between the two families (his family and her family)?

You say that your friend has already tried the help of doctors and counselors. How about an imam? Maybe he can try explaining his situation to an imam and have the imam counsel both of them. Or perhaps...........your friend can arrange a meeting between the elders of his family and the elders of wife's family........and the imam can be present as mediator and guide both parties ? You think that might help?

This woman seems dysfunctional from the way that you've described her. She treats her husband disrespectfully............but how does she treat her own son?

I think maybe an imam needs to sit down with your friend and his wife. And in the presence of the imam, maybe your friend should explain to his wife that their marriage is affecting their son.........and that if changes are not made........a legal separation might something to consider in the future. Perhaps if your husband mentions the possibility of the "d-word" (divorce).............it might scare this woman into reflecting over her behavior. Obviously she would know the stigma that "divorce" carries for women and since she's so opposed to working, she'll have to think about how she will financially support her luxurious demands and her son.........without a husband. And it will become harder for her to get married the second time. All these things might make her contemplate her attitude.


If things get worse instead of getting better...........then a divorce can be a source of relief for all parties involved (possibly even the son). If this woman persists in being a demon.......then your friend might even be able to get documentation/evidence from doctors and counselors proving that she's not emotionally stable. And this might even help him get custody of the son..........especially if this woman is ALSO an unfit mother. I don't know much about the legal dealings and I know that this idea might even sound cruel. But a child deserves a healthier home environment..........even if living with one parent is the best way to establish that.