^I think a big part of the problem is perceptions. In desi society, though it's slowly changing, there's a very limited idea of what beauty is. Beauty can only be fair and slender and that's why a lot of people get passed over as "unattractive" when it's rishta time.
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Well why can't the unattractive guys marry the unattractive girls? or do they also want a supermodel?
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Because the all-powerful aunty/mother of the boy who is so quick to pass judgment on a potential girl's physical flaws is not so quick to pass those same judgments on her son. And in our society, it's not seen as big of a drawback for guys as it is for girls. In the minds of most people, if he's educated and earns a good living, that is all any girl could possibly want.
Anyhow, the whole idea of unattractive/attractive as it pertains to rishtas is just messed up. I'm not sure if I have the reference correct, but I believe Islamically, the idea is if that someone marries for looks and/or wealth over goodness and religiousness, then that person's marriage won't be blessed (please someone correct me if I didn't get that right).
Getting off topic. It's good that you're concerned about your friend. And you should try to help him in the most gentle, tactful way that you know. Inshallah, she'll meet someone. She and her family have to keep trying until they find her prince charming.