redvelvet

I would also like to add.......speaking from personal experience..........that kids (especially teens) get angry when their parents make comments like "You were never like this. It's your African America/Hispanic/Jewish/Italian/Hindu/Non-Muslim friends that are making you a bad person." Such a comment sends the message that the parents are invalidating the child's individuality and doubting his/her capability and intelligence when it comes to making decisions. Also, kids at that age, associate their peers with their own identity. And criticizing their peers can be seen as a personal attack.

Also, there are certain general behaviors that are associated with a various age groups. Teenagers.......regardless of race.........by nature........tend to be more curious......a bit rebellious, etc.

For example.....if your son/daughter in middle or high school has begun taking an interest in the opposite sex..........it doesn't mean that "another race".....is the "culprit". More likely the child is at that age....where hormones are going crazy.......and such behaviors and emotions are natural. Instead of blaming someone else.........parents should equip their children with a good Islamic and moral foundation from a young age..........and they should try to demonstrate Islamic values consistently. It's easy to look for a scapegoat.......but it takes hard work to take individual and parental responsibility.