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Aug 10th, 2008, 01:00 PM
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in seach of happiness
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Have you experienced it ? I have gone through it many a times. I will write about experiences later , please share yours if you like.
I will say it in Urdu also because Urdu has much more stab to it then English.
Kabhi kisee nay aapkey peeth main chura ghoonpa ?
I am a man with a plan. A plan to live a simple , fulfilling life.
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Aug 10th, 2008, 01:05 PM
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back stabbing in real or the factitious one ??
Picking a fight on an internet forum is like running in the Special Olympics , win or lose , U're still retarded ....
Doing nothing is very hard to do.... You never know when you're finished...
.......Come & visit me sometime..........
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Aug 10th, 2008, 01:21 PM
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 yes but i dont want to recall it over n over again
jo mere baad post kare ga wo mota..
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Aug 11th, 2008, 02:20 AM
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chura ghoNpna is one thing... have you met "meeThi churiyaaN" ever? 
I have met a lot of them ...
We call them Diplomats in english 
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Aug 11th, 2008, 02:24 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by AQ
chura ghoNpna is one thing... have you met "meeThi churiyaaN" ever?
I have met a lot of them ...
We call them Diplomats in english |
wellsaid
Kisi khabar ka na hona hi "Khushkhabri" hy
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Aug 11th, 2008, 02:53 AM
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No,because I trust very few people, and watch my step most of the time.
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Aug 11th, 2008, 08:51 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by shining_star
No,because I trust very few people, and watch my step most of the time.
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Mashallah , Allah aap ko nazar- a - bud say bachai. Ameen.
I am a man with a plan. A plan to live a simple , fulfilling life.
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Aug 11th, 2008, 09:24 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by shining_star
No,because I trust very few people, and watch my step most of the time.
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very smart, i dont trust people easily either. na her kisi per trust karo... no koi peechay sey choray ghonpay 
MARAY ALLAH MAREE IZZAT KAI LIYAY YEHI KAFI HAI KAI MAIN TAIRA BANDA HOON OOR MARAY FAKHAR KAI LIYAY YEHE KAFIHAI KAI TOU MAIRA PURWARDIGAAR. TOU WAISA HAIN JAISA MAIN CHAHTA HOO ..PUSS TOU MUJH KO WAISA BANA DAY JAISAY TOU CHAHTA HAI. Ya Ali Madad
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Aug 12th, 2008, 03:34 PM
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I have experienced both meethi churi and backstab..and oh boy! did it hurt or what!?..Alhumdulillah, I recovered from it but at the time it was just very painful to deal with. I kept it all to myself though for like 2 years or smtng and it destroyed my self-esteem and my personality as a whole because it just kept eating me up from inside that I let someone do this. I did confront it with the person and she appologized for hurting me but also said, she didn't think/feel what she did was wrong.
"He is love and I am his beloved."
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Aug 14th, 2008, 08:13 PM
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I've learned a very important lesson... as nice as you wanna be to other people... they never end up appreciating it. Sadly there is no such things as a friend!
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Aug 14th, 2008, 08:59 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by AQ
chura ghoNpna is one thing... have you met "meeThi churiyaaN" ever?
I have met a lot of them ...
We call them Diplomats in english |
Am I one of them? 
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Originally Posted by aqeel123
very smart, i dont trust people easily either. na her kisi per trust karo... no koi peechay sey choray ghonpay |
Very well said
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Originally Posted by Desi_BeauTii
I've learned a very important lesson... as nice as you wanna be to other people... they never end up appreciating it. Sadly there is no such things as a friend!
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True
I have been back stabbed twice. Now it's hard to trust people.
Hamain maat dhondna duniya ki bheed main... Hum milein ge tumhain tumhari parchayi main
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Aug 14th, 2008, 09:09 PM
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Originally Posted by mama ki dua
Am I one of them?
Very well said
True
I have been back stabbed twice. Now it's hard to trust people. |
You should NEVER trust anyone.
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Aug 15th, 2008, 10:09 AM
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so many times 
If a man hasn't discovered something he will die for, he isn't fit to live.
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Aug 19th, 2008, 11:56 PM
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Always and everyone.
I am used to it.
But it is contagious.....lolz
One life to live
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Aug 20th, 2008, 12:03 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Desi_BeauTii
I've learned a very important lesson... as nice as you wanna be to other people... they never end up appreciating it. Sadly there is no such things as a friend!
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Most of the people have their own inferiority complex....
Never mind it.
Do your best always.... for the sake of Allah...........
Allah will reward you for your good deeds sooner or latter.
Cheers
One life to live
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Aug 20th, 2008, 12:19 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Mirch
Have you experienced it ? I have gone through it many a times. I will write about experiences later , please share yours if you like.
I will say it in Urdu also because Urdu has much more stab to it then English.
Kabhi kisee nay aapkey peeth main chura ghoonpa ?
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I was backstabbed by someone i trusted so much. now after a year or so, still i think of it everyday. i never wanted to see that person's face again yet i have to face everyday,. when i see that person, i feel the pain again.
i can easily trust people now i am trying to change this.
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Aug 21st, 2008, 01:54 AM
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I dont trust people easily.
we all are complaining of others. but we are not angels. we also back stab many people intentionally or unintentionally.
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Aug 21st, 2008, 03:19 AM
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many times....per girtay hain she-sawar he maidan-e-jung main
ALLAH SWT khud fermatay hain "may tumharay saath aisa he hoon jaisa tum meray baray main goman rekhtay hain "
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Aug 21st, 2008, 03:56 AM
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this topic brings some side topic to my mind
- kia payaz katney wali churi bhi peeth mian ghompi ja sakti hai ?
- pait main chura ghompna ziada asaan hai ba nisbat peeth ke
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many times....per girtay hain she-sawar he maidan-e-jung main
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Girey paRey logo ko koi keyon marey ga bhala ? 
Ik fursat-e-gunah mili wo bhi chaar din
dekhey hian hum ney hosley, parwardigar ke !
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Aug 21st, 2008, 08:23 AM
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stabbed? lol, I got shot from behind like in Scarface...
I had my contract, signed in my pockets, even started working, what comes out? 2 days later the Coffeeshop owner tells me, "we don't consider you as a colleague in our Coffeshop"...
I had that job...good pay...and then SUDDENLY and unexpected bang, you're out.
B'tch. She'll pay for that big time. The way I was treated, like sh't. Lanat parre uski dakan pe...
Gone with a smile
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Aug 21st, 2008, 08:51 AM
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I have been back stabbed ... probably due to my own transgressions. A few times it has happened to me. One time I could have led myself to a jail another time I could led myself to the coffin, but Alhumdulillah ... He Saved me!
I still trust people in the general sense ... I will however now, check to see if things are as said before jumping in to things. It is not distrust ... it is just not blind trust like I used to do too often.
The only one I can blindly trust is my Lord.
P.S. Please don't ask me for details regarding the backstabbing as you are not going to get any.
The Prophet(SAW) said:
"I am leaving you two things and you will never go astray as long as you cling to them -- they are the Book of Allah and my Sunnah." [Reported by Al- Haakim - Sahih].
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Aug 21st, 2008, 09:10 AM
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^
details do na 
Gone with a smile
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Aug 21st, 2008, 09:15 AM
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When I acted like a nice guy, everybody thought they could take advantage of me; but now that I act cold and aloof, everybody respects me.
In life, you have to consider that everybody, including close friends and relatives, may be trying to take advantage of you.
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Aug 21st, 2008, 09:24 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Numb
stabbed? lol, I got shot from behind like in Scarface...
I had my contract, signed in my pockets, even started working, what comes out? 2 days later the Coffeeshop owner tells me, "we don't consider you as a colleague in our Coffeshop"...
I had that job...good pay...and then SUDDENLY and unexpected bang, you're out.
B'tch. She'll pay for that big time. The way I was treated, like sh't. Lanat parre uski dakan pe...
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Some details will help to understand what not to do to avoid such things this is the purpose of this thread.
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Originally Posted by zxcvb
When I acted like a nice guy, everybody thought they could take advantage of me; but now that I act cold and aloof, everybody respects me.
In life, you have to consider that everybody, including close friends and relatives, may be trying to take advantage of you.
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When you act as a nice guy they respect you when you are not around , but when you act cold and aloof they respect only on your face behind your back they are making plans to get at ya.
So it is better to act nice but be careful and not to fall victim to a back stabber.
I am a man with a plan. A plan to live a simple , fulfilling life.
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Aug 21st, 2008, 12:33 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by zxcvb
When I acted like a nice guy, everybody thought they could take advantage of me; but now that I act cold and aloof, everybody respects me.
In life, you have to consider that everybody, including close friends and relatives, may be trying to take advantage of you.
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Peace zxcvb
Sometimes we need to rule out people asking assistance vs people taking advantage and people respecting us vs people keeping their distance from us.
My mother always says,
itna meetha na bano ke koi tumhe suraq jai, na itna karwa bano ke koi tumhe moun se tukh de
For me I prefer to be helpful and if they take advantage of me then I pray that Allah (SWT) protect me from the harm in that. So they will only earn for themselves evil. I try not to think I am doing things to please "man", because "man" is ungrateful. If we can't be grateful to our Lord how then can we be grateful to each other? Rather, I try to do things to please Allah (SWT) ... He will never back stab me, Woe ... to the thought of it!
The Prophet(SAW) said:
"I am leaving you two things and you will never go astray as long as you cling to them -- they are the Book of Allah and my Sunnah." [Reported by Al- Haakim - Sahih].
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