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Shaadi & General Expectations

Posted Jan 9th, 2009 at 11:58 AM by Let Uz Chat

How much influence do Laug have in the decisions your family make? Or do you brave it out and do your own thing and let the people have a flutter!

For instance your daughter is getting married soon and you must stick with the norm in your part of the world and provide the necessary furniture (even if you won't be living in Pakistan but at least the in laws will benefit from it!). Must wear gold as costume jewellery say buk buk shouro ho jaee ge. Lehnga must be of a certain standard...........

It's so annoying when you are different but you are born into a culture of pleasing (for the sake of keeping face)! It's so not you but you must not share your point of view (on a certain subject) because that's a form of disrespect to your elders and it's not generally accepted in your baradari and laug will start to talk. One can't help but feel sick sometimes of the mental strain brings Pakistaniyat.

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	Kis ki shadi ho rahi hai? Don't forget to invite Pagli and moi
	Posted Jan 9th, 2009 at 01:32 PM by mama ki dua

	Not mine but my bro and sis will be getting married next year and I was letting of some steam. You guys will have to come to Pakistan! Chaley ga?
	Posted Jan 9th, 2009 at 01:37 PM by Let Uz Chat

	Oh I see. Haan aa jain ge
	Posted Jan 9th, 2009 at 02:01 PM by mama ki dua

	why would you guys give the guys side furniture when the girl is not even going to live in pakistan! is this really a rewaj or a sly suggestion.
	Posted Jan 14th, 2009 at 03:05 AM by haimeradil

	I dnt agree with this whole out-of-control jehez...its ridiculous and needs to be banned in Pakistan. Whatever my parents decide to gift me is MY business...not anyone else's.
	Posted Jan 14th, 2009 at 04:03 AM by PSquared

	these traditions will take time to diminish in our culture as it took 100s of years to come this far. I m sure with time, education and awareness ppl will automatically get rid of this jahaiz lanat. Taking sudden extreme measure would make situation more difficult. Let it flow . . .
	Posted Jan 14th, 2009 at 05:21 AM by Lafanter

	haimeradil: Yeah the suggestion is as ridiculous as it reads. It's a rather silly (to put it mildly) revaaj in our part of the world. If one's Daughter is getting married then you must give 1 full room's furniture to the groom's family.
	Posted Jan 14th, 2009 at 01:07 PM by Let Uz Chat

	THat is not a riwaaj, furniture is only for hte girl, esp if she will be living there. Looks like this is one greedy family/small community that demands this. But also if one is not strong enough to stand up to these traditions and put tehir foot down and say no, then they dont deserve to coplain. period
	Posted Mar 9th, 2009 at 08:58 PM by Sara516

	seems like desi dudes dont have furniture in their homes taking notes
	Posted Mar 9th, 2009 at 09:10 PM by kali billi