http://www.paklinks.com/gs/blogs/sadzzz/ The largest Pakistani Bulletin board and portal en Tue, 24 Nov 2009 04:58:50 GMT vBulletin 60 http://www.paklinks.com/gs/images/misc/rss.jpg http://www.paklinks.com/gs/blogs/sadzzz/ http://www.paklinks.com/gs/blogs/sadzzz/65992-better.html Thu, 19 Nov 2009 00:30:16 GMT things are better than yesterday.. I think

U know what i think it is... that we just dont have ANY time together these days.. ZILCH.. like seriously.

Last week, MIL was at SIL's house... so we had a bit of time together to bond when Hebz was off to sleep and it was really nice.. this week with soo much going on... and hubz with hayfever, organising the move.. organising final payments for the house.. dealing with the scorching heat... yikes.. its all a bit too much

in the midst of it all.. the hubz still has time to make me feel special... how.. i dont know :) but at least we aint saying mean things to each other..

oh.. guess what.. the BIL sold my freezer for a wopping $400 on e-bay.. im thrilled.. i was happy for it to go for $180... we got it for $550 3 years ago.. so not bad at all.. not bad at all..

Heba woke up at 3 lastnight... she was crying like crazy in her sleep... walking from room to room.. complaining about her tummy.. she was hungry.. got the hubz up.. they sat on the sofa together while i made toast for her in the dark.. then she ate the toast on daddy's chest... and we all went to bed.. again at 4am in our bed... it was waaay too hot in her room.. so i put her in the middle and had the fan on.. she slept sooo well after that Mashallah..

the hubz and i were both 'awwwing' our lil guploo in the morning... cant help but smile when we see the munckin sprawled over our bed with arms and legs everywhere.. red cheeks.. so cute.. muah.. meri jaan..

handover of the house tomorrow... wooohooooo ]]> sadzzz http://www.paklinks.com/gs/blogs/sadzzz/65992-better.html http://www.paklinks.com/gs/blogs/sadzzz/65897-u-freak-me-out.html Tue, 17 Nov 2009 22:36:47 GMT a new phrase guploo has learnt.... on Friday, she sat in the car constantly screaming out... 'u freak me out!'

geez weez!

whats next ]]> sadzzz http://www.paklinks.com/gs/blogs/sadzzz/65897-u-freak-me-out.html http://www.paklinks.com/gs/blogs/sadzzz/65896-forgiving-but-not-forgetting.html Tue, 17 Nov 2009 22:35:43 GMT which leads to more sorries and apologies and a bad mood im not the type of person who holds grudges against people i love and need in my life. People who arent so important i might hold something against them.. however, the person im married to is entirely different. He remembers minute... which leads to more sorries and apologies and a bad mood

im not the type of person who holds grudges against people i love and need in my life. People who arent so important i might hold something against them..

however, the person im married to is entirely different. He remembers minute details from before marriage, and even first two yaers which ive asked him not to discuss as those years are quite turbulent.. or were. BUT he still does. He says he wont.. but now and again, he will suddenly remember something... and we'll have a tiff... and yesh, it'll be horrible for a few hours or so... well basically cus we end up going to work without resolving the issue.. and aaagh

is anyone else out there like this? someone who finds it really HARD to let go of past mishaps? even if ur loved one has apologised upteen times...? I dont feel like apologising anymore... ive said that too.. mistakes happen... we learn from them. I guess though, if u let similar things happen agian now and then, it does bring back silly memories... oopsies... totally my fault

Im so over this.

uuugh ]]> sadzzz http://www.paklinks.com/gs/blogs/sadzzz/65896-forgiving-but-not-forgetting.html http://www.paklinks.com/gs/blogs/sadzzz/65534-iktara.html Fri, 13 Nov 2009 04:16:31 GMT im addicted to this song: Orey manva tu to bavra hai Tu hi jaane tu kya sochta hai Tu hi jaane tu kya sochta hai bavre Kyun dikhaye sapne tu sote jaagte Jo barse sapne boond boond Nainon ko moond moond Jo barse sapne boond boond Nainon ko moond moond im addicted to this song:

Orey manva tu to bavra hai
Tu hi jaane tu kya sochta hai
Tu hi jaane tu kya sochta hai bavre
Kyun dikhaye sapne tu sote jaagte
Jo barse sapne boond boond
Nainon ko moond moond
Jo barse sapne boond boond
Nainon ko moond moond
Kaise main chaloon, dekh na sakoon
Anjaane raastein

Gunjasa hai koi iktara iktara, gunjasa hai koi iktara...
Dheeme bole koi iktara iktara, dheeme bole koi iktara

Sun rahi hoon sudh budh khoke koi main kahani
Poori kahani hai kya kise hai pata
Main to kisiki hoke yeh bhi na jaani
Ruth hai ye do pal ki ya rehgi sada
(kise hai pata kise hai pata)

Jo barse sapne boond boond
Nainon ko moond moond
Kaise main chaloon, dekh na sakoon
Anjaane raastein

Gunjasa hai koi iktara iktara, gunjasa hai koi iktara... ]]> sadzzz http://www.paklinks.com/gs/blogs/sadzzz/65534-iktara.html http://www.paklinks.com/gs/blogs/sadzzz/65532-house.html Fri, 13 Nov 2009 03:09:05 GMT one more week till we inshallah get the keys to our new ghar.. i am so excited.

wont be officially moving in for another 2 weeks.. but at least we'll have the place!!! so excited!!! ]]> sadzzz http://www.paklinks.com/gs/blogs/sadzzz/65532-house.html http://www.paklinks.com/gs/blogs/sadzzz/65456-how-old-you.html Thu, 12 Nov 2009 02:54:38 GMT do you women get that? like A LOT?

i swear, i get this EVERYTIME im out shopping alone.. or i'll get the eye..

if im out shopping alone for the hubz or hebz... and i mention that i need to get something for them, they'll look me up and down and go... "how old are you?!.. ur married?!"

In the beginning i used to take it as a compliment.. now its just beginning to be a joke.. im hitting 30 in about 2 months or so.. and people think im 21.. not that its a bad thing. But, I would like to come across as a mature person.. someone sensible.

Fine, when im in my trackies and at the waxing salon.. u can be forgiven for not knowing what my age is... but when im in office attire.. COME ON!!! ]]> sadzzz http://www.paklinks.com/gs/blogs/sadzzz/65456-how-old-you.html http://www.paklinks.com/gs/blogs/sadzzz/65446-my-brothers-wife-my-bhabhi.html Wed, 11 Nov 2009 22:44:13 GMT i adore her.

I've adored her before she married the bro... infact, before they even liked each other, i wished they would.. and i was blown away to know they did like one another..

khair, fast forward about 10 million years and a few too many misunderstandings... i adore her

we've always had a very i dunno... high level relationship. We keep everything soo high level and never quite dwell into REALLY serious things.. hence i think the relationship is good. We dont let our misunderstandings with other family members affect our relationship... the way it should be. If she's upset with my mum... I do to an extent let her tell me... try to stay neautral.. prob more on her side.. just to keep the peace... but Mashallah nothing crazy has happened for a few years so i havent even had to do that..

neways.. i just wanted to write a blog about her... i wished we lived a lil closer to hang out more often, but i guess even our weekly or fortnightly meetings at mums... inbetween telling off the girls (our bache laug), we have time to giggle like school girls.

i hope Inshallah we always stay like this... or even better ]]> sadzzz http://www.paklinks.com/gs/blogs/sadzzz/65446-my-brothers-wife-my-bhabhi.html http://www.paklinks.com/gs/blogs/sadzzz/65378-look-those-black-faces.html Wed, 11 Nov 2009 02:42:22 GMT we were at the park yesterday.. it's right across from our house and Heba stares at it all day long waiting for kids to come.. so we went yesterday.. and she was soo excited to see these two little (well much bigger than her) arab boys.. she's like a midget in comparison, but she gets their attention and thinks everyone is her friend..

after about half an hour.. she noticed some other kids (teens) coming to the park.. in her excitement she yelled out "mama.. look at those black faces..." (they were sudanese or somalian kids).

I was horrified... i told her not to say such things and to keep her volume down. She didnt understand what was so wrong... she was just excited to see more kids... so the brat in a very hushed voice goes... "mama... like this... look at those black faces..." in a tiny whisper..

ai hai :smack:

How on earth do u explain to a kid u cant say things like that? museebat ]]> sadzzz http://www.paklinks.com/gs/blogs/sadzzz/65378-look-those-black-faces.html http://www.paklinks.com/gs/blogs/sadzzz/65365-losing-weight.html Wed, 11 Nov 2009 00:08:40 GMT so i spent 4 or so weeks dieting to lose 3-4 kgs.... and in the week i stop dieting and eating like normal, i lose 2kg on my own... hows that huh? its called being overworked and not sitting down for more than 2 minutes at a time.. my husband had to yell at me to sit... :halo: anyways, im... so i spent 4 or so weeks dieting to lose 3-4 kgs.... and in the week i stop dieting and eating like normal, i lose 2kg on my own... hows that huh?

its called being overworked and not sitting down for more than 2 minutes at a time.. my husband had to yell at me to sit... :halo:

anyways, im very happy jee... ]]> sadzzz http://www.paklinks.com/gs/blogs/sadzzz/65365-losing-weight.html http://www.paklinks.com/gs/blogs/sadzzz/65186-cake.html Mon, 09 Nov 2009 03:52:17 GMT the cake i made for my paari pari so choti si neice... for her 1st birthday alishasdolly.jpg alishasdolly2.jpg the cake i made for my paari pari so choti si neice... for her 1st birthday



]]> sadzzz http://www.paklinks.com/gs/blogs/sadzzz/65186-cake.html http://www.paklinks.com/gs/blogs/sadzzz/64995-annoying-situations.html Fri, 06 Nov 2009 05:10:58 GMT so the day after my MIL arrives.. my SIL's friend calls up to say salam and stuff and asks me whether im having a birthday party for Heba.. she then says I should have a barri si party and invite her.. and that she better be invited..

:halo:

secondly, what do u do in situations where ur SIL is invited somewhere, ur invited somewhere else.. and ur SIL wants to take the MIL with her?

its such a tricky situation.. i feel for my MIL.. seriously I do...

neways, 3 months coming up with more of these situations. Ive told the hubz im not making any decisions. I am just going to be a complete mule for the next few months. I dont want to get involved or give my opinion.

better to be safe nahin ]]> sadzzz http://www.paklinks.com/gs/blogs/sadzzz/64995-annoying-situations.html http://www.paklinks.com/gs/blogs/sadzzz/64992-past-few-days.html Fri, 06 Nov 2009 03:22:15 GMT have been sooo hectic. Im booking myself in for a remedial massage this sunday.. seriously. My back is in tatters from exhaustion.. On tuesday i spent the entire day cooking and cleaning. The hubz was sick with hayfever and all sorts of other thigns so couldnt help out much. Hebz was not so... have been sooo hectic. Im booking myself in for a remedial massage this sunday.. seriously. My back is in tatters from exhaustion..

On tuesday i spent the entire day cooking and cleaning. The hubz was sick with hayfever and all sorts of other thigns so couldnt help out much. Hebz was not so well either, so my plans to have everything cooked and cleaned and then go wish mum a happy birthday didnt quite work out. Koi baat nahin.. my mama was understanding.

My MIL came that night.. was rather exciting actually. She said i looked rather slim and smart. yaaaaaaaaaaay she made my day, more like made the rest of my 2-3 months :)

Everyone stayed over that night... MIL loved the food, loved my gajar ka halwa... so glad! im on a roll arent i? LOL... the hubz and i had to sleep in Hebz room on the floor... it was soooooooo sweet. We didnt have enough sheets and blankets cus we had given them all to my SIL and her kids to sleep on.. so the hubz made this small single bed on the floor for us... he put hebz blanket on my feet and her small quitl on top.. and we slept on the floor.. LOL. We hardly got a wink but it was sweet...

Wednesday was another hectic day. cooking, cleaning, kids running around, heba not being well... *sigh* but as long as everyone like the food... it was all good. See where my priorities are? sad haha

Yesterday was kinda quiet.. SIL had gone back to her place.. went to pick up BIL's new car.. did the usual cooking cleaning around the house.. man i am exhausted from just writing this.. !

and on top of all this, im making a dolly varden cake for my youngest neice... awww she's such a paara paara paara bacha... i just love her.. just love her to bits! i thjink i make my love a bit too obvious cus my mum and everyone else gets on my back to have another than... khair, until she's around... im all good :) I just hope the cake turns out good... my first time ever attempt at making a dolly varden... plus its Alisha's first birthday... it HAS to be special..

hows everyone? i hope ur all Inshallah good :) ]]> sadzzz http://www.paklinks.com/gs/blogs/sadzzz/64992-past-few-days.html http://www.paklinks.com/gs/blogs/sadzzz/64668-effort.html Mon, 02 Nov 2009 02:19:22 GMT being married... i know, that i put in a lot of effort to keep the relationship going. To not let it deterioate.. if we have a bump, i will talk to the hubby (aka, do is head in) until i have the problem resolved. sometimes, i find myself yelling like a churail and screaming like a mai (only when... being married... i know, that i put in a lot of effort to keep the relationship going. To not let it deterioate.. if we have a bump, i will talk to the hubby (aka, do is head in) until i have the problem resolved. sometimes, i find myself yelling like a churail and screaming like a mai (only when we're alone) to make myself look silly and hopefully gain the sympathy of my loving husband...

my husband, has always pointed out that in the past 4 years of marriage and 5 years of knowing each other, i have always put in more effort.. more than him, but having said that.... he does put up with a lot of my mistakes too... mistakes that he wishes i wouldnt do again, but in some round about sorta way, they do happen.. AGAIN. And this is when we argue. Well, he points it out... i get upset and then the whole hoopla starts

Sometimes, i think, he would be so better off without me. Without the silliness that i create.. its unnecessary and just stupid.... the sad thing is.. the issues on the outside are sooooo trivual... yet deep down, they matter sooo much for both him and i... cus it all comes down to understanding and communication.

We are both such perfectionist in this matter. We both want close to 100% understanding. Thats where the problem is. When things like this come about... he'll say, "forget it... no point..." I know he doesnt REALLY mean it... but it hurts me SOOOOO much. Cus i know for both of us, this is the key thing in our relationship.

I do try my ever so best for things not to happen again... and seriously, on a scale of 1-100.. the issues that come up are prob below the 10 mark... lekin as i said, cus they have A LOT to do with communication and understanding.. they become more like high 90's.

kya to do..

only one thing to do..

try again and again.... until we get it right. Cus there is no such thing as leaving... for either one of us. ]]> sadzzz http://www.paklinks.com/gs/blogs/sadzzz/64668-effort.html http://www.paklinks.com/gs/blogs/sadzzz/64471-last-minute-change-plans.html Fri, 30 Oct 2009 00:36:56 GMT drive me insane im a very planned person... not that i dont like doing fun stuff on the spare of the moment. I am ALWAYS, 200% up for that... up for going out on the last minute.. what im not too happy about is.. when i have planned for something to happen,... been looking forward to it.. and... drive me insane

im a very planned person... not that i dont like doing fun stuff on the spare of the moment. I am ALWAYS, 200% up for that... up for going out on the last minute.. what im not too happy about is.. when i have planned for something to happen,... been looking forward to it.. and then someone.... aka hubby, turns around and is like "ohhh i have a headache... my eyes are itchy can we go home..."

like hellooooooooooooooooo

im usually very nice about this stuff.. but i blew it yesterday.. just could not take this nonsense anymore.. these excuses only seem to pop up when me me me wants to go shopping... like COME ON hubby! i can so seeeeeee it

so i let him have it...

and i threatended him that if he did not take me shopping and Heba's bed searching session this weekend... he wont know what has hit him..

seriously... had hogayi yaar... i dont even complain about my back pain, period pain. foot pain, hubby pain.. just deal with it.. march on

sooky lala on the other hand.... uff

b/w next week im gonna be pretty much away from GS.. besides monday... MIL arrives on tuesday night.. got the SIL and her fam sleeping over that night.. got tuesday-thursday off from work to take care of things at home... so no GS for sadzzz... u lucky lot :p ]]> sadzzz http://www.paklinks.com/gs/blogs/sadzzz/64471-last-minute-change-plans.html http://www.paklinks.com/gs/blogs/sadzzz/64335-what-do-i-do-chatterbox.html Thu, 29 Oct 2009 00:16:00 GMT oh man she makes me laugh.. i have to give Heba a talk before we go to shops these days.. I have to ask her to not talk so loudly and to basically not chit chat with strangers... but it just doesnt work! on tuesday we went to do some shopping and she saw a little Bob the builder ride.. but... oh man she makes me laugh..

i have to give Heba a talk before we go to shops these days.. I have to ask her to not talk so loudly and to basically not chit chat with strangers... but it just doesnt work!

on tuesday we went to do some shopping and she saw a little Bob the builder ride.. but i told her i didnt have any coins so when i get some coins or cash she can go on it..

khair, that was fine... so im at a counter in a big department store and im paying for something when Heba sees the love of her life (one of them neways)... wrapping paper.. rolled wrapping paper. So she gets herself out of the pram and asks

"mama.. u have cash... u have cash mama?!" at the top off her lungs.. and the lady at the counter is nearly on the floor in a fit of laughter.

Like how do u sanely speak to a child who asks u such random questions in public? I tried to be reasonable with her and said I had none... but she was adamant that I get some cash and get her the wrapping paper... so YES to avoid anymore loud noise, i got her the silly paper... Christmas Wrapping paper! sheesh

I cant stop her from exclaiming... "hello lady... nice to meet you.."

taking her in a pram or trolley is like taking a walking talknig radio with me that has no volume control... instead if i tell her to quieten down she takes it personally and says "no say shhh to Heba.. Mama no say shh... "

If i refuse to acknowledge her request... i get "u angry mama... u angry with Heba? u no my friend?"

:smack: ]]> sadzzz http://www.paklinks.com/gs/blogs/sadzzz/64335-what-do-i-do-chatterbox.html