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      Can someone shed any light on this? I understand they have a lot of responsibility (especially if a Mother has pased) But can someone tell me exactlly what these are?

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      depends...

      'supposedly' the responsibilites are to act as fatherfigure to the younger brothers n sisters.....
      like...trying to take care of their legitimate financial needs (if parents are not able to or retired or passed away).....and guide them (if they are able to)

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      Thanks Nomi...the Father is still alive...but my friend at work is under pressure to now get married to move a women into the house to look after his father...although at present his younger brother is there and a sister!

      Really feel sorry for this guy!

      Quote Originally Posted by NomiCA View Post
      depends...

      'supposedly' the responsibilites are to act as fatherfigure to the younger brothers n sisters.....
      like...trying to take care of their legitimate financial needs (if parents are not able to or retired or passed away).....and guide them (if they are able to)

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      well..if sister is there he shouldn't be pressured now..but start to think about it......and tell him to forget that his wife would take care of his dad......women don't do that nowadays...i think...

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      Quote Originally Posted by NomiCA View Post
      well..if sister is there he shouldn't be pressured now..but start to think about it......and tell him to forget that his wife would take care of his dad......women don't do that nowadays...i think...
      Its not about now a days its about responsibilities wife responsibility is towards her husband not towards her father in law.
      "The point is Allah. And everything besides Allah, is besides the point."

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      As an elder brother I've realized so many things that may never be known by youngers. And I think the fact whether parents are there or no barely impacts the importance of being the eldest. The most important responsibility of the eldest is to take the entire family together, like all streamlined. He has to support the youngers whenever its required or even when not required. And this support goes from financial aspect to social. And if you are the eldest, dont even think that you can get anyone realize that you are doing anythng for them. Just do it and forget. If they are thankful, its your luck and if they dont count it, you just cant do anything about it.
      You have to get yourself aware of whatever each brother/sis is going through. You have to be very careful in the choice of words when the time comes that you'd need to bash anyone for anything. Its just a very delicate balance that you gotto keep.
      So in short, the eldest has to be very very responsible, but still there is no room of error for them. He just cant be insensitive at any time.

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      Quote Originally Posted by SID_NY View Post
      As an elder brother I've realized so many things that may never be known by youngers. And I think the fact whether parents are there or no barely impacts the importance of being the eldest. The most important responsibility of the eldest is to take the entire family together, like all streamlined. He has to support the youngers whenever its required or even when not required. And this support goes from financial aspect to social. And if you are the eldest, dont even think that you can get anyone realize that you are doing anythng for them. Just do it and forget. If they are thankful, its your luck and if they dont count it, you just cant do anything about it.
      You have to get yourself aware of whatever each brother/sis is going through. You have to be very careful in the choice of words when the time comes that you'd need to bash anyone for anything. Its just a very delicate balance that you gotto keep.
      So in short, the eldest has to be very very responsible, but still there is no room of error for them. He just cant be insensitive at any time.

      Boy, I think I can write a whole book on this topic.
      crikey! u r the expert!! LOL but this poor guy is under pressure to get married just because he is the eldest son...has to have a wife in Pakistan to look after the affairs there :-O Does not seem right really does it!!

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      Quote Originally Posted by UZ View Post
      Its not about now a days its about responsibilities wife responsibility is towards her husband not towards her father in law.
      ya....whatever the reason......it doesn't happen........that you agree with me........and thats the point the person should know who is marrying thinking that his wife will take care or help him take care of his parents......he shouldn't be expecting that right?

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      i am the youngest...my dad is the eldest son.......and my older brother is..

      so i have seen my dad do 'the responsibilities' more than required........and my bro them less than required.........and watched it all over.....so i have my comment covering ground of all three experiences i have