how humiliation hurts the ego of a man who earns for his family and how that may contribute or may well be the reason why the man becomes an aggressor, because he feels hurt, overly sacrifical and wanting a change in his life, by hook or by crook?

how does this natur of the life of a family man, may defines A society which he is a part of, how does the culture of patriarchal hold gains momentum and keeps it, when a lot of men turn to aggression, due to untold, unshared hurt they feel, when they ar burdened with providing for their family?

& finally: true, that men will have to do their part to not feel unsafe, over-burdended or degraded and not act as aggressors, BUT, what role can the collective society composed of men and women, do to make men feel valued?