dressing up

Sara516 · Sep 16th, 2009, 11:02 PM

do you think your social circle and lifestyle affects your taste in clothes?

I have hte tastes and likes of a social butterfly--someone who has tons of events to go to (thus tons of outfits

), and knows how to doll herself up.

Ok I used to dressed like a nawi dulhan ages before i got married (i still hope the brides forgive me for wearing a lengha on their weddings

) but that changed since i got married.

in my in laws noone dresses up very much, they all dress very simple. none of my friends dress up very much either, cz they're unmarried or just really really religious and conservative (so that when they wear even a cotton jora they look really beautiful mA). nobody in my immediate family dresses up. my husband doesn't go to any events or gatherings with me. so with all that i feel so awkward dressing up. but yet im tired of being self conscious and overthinking abt dressing up.

i certainly hope i'm not the only one who overthinks and psychoanalyzes the concept of dressing up

sadzzz · Sep 16th, 2009, 11:31 PM

Sara, everytime i dress up.. my hubz goes "whose valima is it? or is it the baraat today?"

whateeeeeeeeever! If i feel like dressing up, I shall and i dont need to get permission for it. Khair, his head gets so big neways when we go out....

I still sometimes dress up like a newly wed. Who cares. Its your life.. and u should dress like you want to.

clothesmad · Sep 17th, 2009, 02:48 AM

never compromise on what you enjoy, like you, im such a clothes horse, (not so much jewellery).

My husband likes to see me dressed well, however not to keen to spend the $$$$$ on my taste (lol), but even he has started comparing how well my look/taste is compared to others.

Who cares what others are wearing, and you know what, people always remember and admire you for your look (they may not say it to your face) but i have had compliments from when people had seen me years ago with some outfit they liked (didnt bother complimenting me at the time), but hey whats a few years between family and friends?

marwah · Sep 17th, 2009, 11:04 AM

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Originally Posted by sadzzz

Sara, everytime i dress up.. my hubz goes "whose valima is it? or is it the baraat today?"

whateeeeeeeeever! If i feel like dressing up, I shall and i dont need to get permission for it. Khair, his head gets so big neways when we go out....

I still sometimes dress up like a newly wed. Who cares. Its your life.. and u should dress like you want to.

LOL my dad says that to me!

marwah · Sep 17th, 2009, 11:11 AM

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Originally Posted by Sara516

do you think your social circle and lifestyle affects your taste in clothes?

I have hte tastes and likes of a social butterfly--someone who has tons of events to go to (thus tons of outfits

), and knows how to doll herself up.

Ok I used to dressed like a nawi dulhan ages before i got married (i still hope the brides forgive me for wearing a lengha on their weddings

) but that changed since i got married.

in my in laws noone dresses up very much, they all dress very simple. none of my friends dress up very much either, cz they're unmarried or just really really religious and conservative (so that when they wear even a cotton jora they look really beautiful mA). nobody in my immediate family dresses up. my husband doesn't go to any events or gatherings with me. so with all that i feel so awkward dressing up. but yet im tired of being self conscious and overthinking abt dressing up.

i certainly hope i'm not the only one who overthinks and psychoanalyzes the concept of dressing up

no you're not the only one sara. i usually dress according to where i'm going, and what kind of people are going to be there, because i don't like being over or under dressed. my mom on the other hand doesn't care where she's going, she likes dressing up, and when i tell her not to wear something so fancy because so and so are going to be there and they dress very simpley, my mom's like so what? just because they don't know how to dress, doesn't mean i shouldn't dress well either and plus, when am i ever going to wear these then? and i think she's right. dress according to the occasion, it doesn't matter how the people around you dress. if you know your outfit is suitable for the occasion, there wear it!

njgal · Sep 17th, 2009, 11:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Sara516

do you think your social circle and lifestyle affects your taste in clothes?

I have hte tastes and likes of a social butterfly--someone who has tons of events to go to (thus tons of outfits

), and knows how to doll herself up.

Ok I used to dressed like a nawi dulhan ages before i got married (i still hope the brides forgive me for wearing a lengha on their weddings

) but that changed since i got married.

in my in laws noone dresses up very much, they all dress very simple. none of my friends dress up very much either, cz they're unmarried or just really really religious and conservative (so that when they wear even a cotton jora they look really beautiful mA). nobody in my immediate family dresses up. my husband doesn't go to any events or gatherings with me. so with all that i feel so awkward dressing up. but yet im tired of being self conscious and overthinking abt dressing up.

i certainly hope i'm not the only one who overthinks and psychoanalyzes the concept of dressing up

yes I dress a up like a diva when I hang out with other divas and SHLUP when I hangout with other SHLUPS.

lady_lama · Sep 17th, 2009, 12:31 PM

I love dressing up, eids, weddings, funerals (yes carefully i think out what im going to wear so i look suitable for it but still stylish

)

Sometimes i do feel rather self conscious tho, but if im wearing a simple lehnga at a wedding, its not like i look like the bride right so all good IMO!!

Dress up jawani doesn't last forever

I want my great grand kids to be like woah, our great grand mummy was hot lol! (how sad i know)

*HNK* · Sep 17th, 2009, 12:40 PM

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Originally Posted by lady_lama

I love dressing up, eids, weddings, funerals (yes carefully i think out what im going to wear so i look suitable for it but still stylish

)

Sometimes i do feel rather self conscious tho, but if im wearing a simple lehnga at a wedding, its not like i look like the bride right so all good IMO!!

Dress up jawani doesn't last forever

I want my great grand kids to be like woah, our great grand mummy was hot lol! (how sad i know)

CorruptAngel · Sep 17th, 2009, 02:41 PM

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Originally Posted by marwah

no you're not the only one sara. i usually dress according to where i'm going, and what kind of people are going to be there, because i don't like being over or under dressed.!

I'm the same way...I tend to dress according to the event and the social circle.

PSquared · Sep 17th, 2009, 03:50 PM

I love dressing up and do it every chance I get.

I love clothes, buying them, wearing them, accessorizing with the right touches, etc.

Most of my friends do not dress up the way I do, they are far more casual and sometimes casual is good too. But for me, I enjoy looking nice as much as I can.

kurripunjaban · Sep 17th, 2009, 03:53 PM

Ditto to what everyones said! I get it from my mum too, mashallah she dresses so well wherever she goes, and all the other aunties are normally like heyyy where did you get your suit/bangles blah blah

ps check out my signature, sums up my feelings completely lol

Gina~ · Sep 17th, 2009, 06:42 PM

Dress u're best always..u never know who u might run into

Arjun Rampal, Atif Aslam, Imran Khan.. Johnny Depp *dreamy*

uetian2k1 · Sep 17th, 2009, 09:25 PM

before marriage i used to dress up but not that heavy but after marriage my husband is always very keen to see me in good condition:P and just by dressing well he is used to buy me some ice-cream or we dine-out ..like not only he praises me but mashallah gives reward to me as well(sometimes money-reward)...and so far as the social circle is concerned..i love doing makeup but not like full 2-3 clr eyeshadow and heavy base every time...we have 1 lady in our circle like this...i dont know why but she is always as if some valeema or baraat is going on chahay sirf iftari he kio na ho ..loves 2 wear gaudy clothes jub k aisa koi mauka nai hota...while another lady says mai to makeup krti he nai muje pasand he nai *rolling eyes*..but bcz my hubby likes so i dress up acc. 2 the occasion and venue as well...now after seeing me one friend has started doing that as well.. and i like it ppl change themselves by looking at me

eastern11 · Sep 17th, 2009, 09:42 PM

I dress up. All kaam walay joras at parties and all. Funny as when I lived in Pakistan I didn't wear the kaam walay joras that much but now---!! For some reason people dress up more in the US than in Pakistan. I think its everyone's personal choice, whether you dress simply or dress up more "bling"

Sara516 · Sep 17th, 2009, 09:58 PM

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Originally Posted by uetian2k1

...we have 1 lady in our circle like this...i dont know why but she is always as if some valeema or baraat is going on chahay sirf iftari he kio na ho ..loves 2 wear gaudy clothes jub k aisa koi mauka nai hota...

THATS why I hesitate to dress up, esp when I am alone (not attending with friends or family....), i wud hate anyone to think that of me..ugh...
yeah i know...insecurity and lacking confidence =/

uetian2k1 · Sep 18th, 2009, 07:44 PM

yeah sara ..u r not alone..that's with me as well..but when its really some party or sort of get together with friends then i do SHOW UP!!

Malaikah · Sep 18th, 2009, 09:01 PM

i LOVE dressing up...i dont care what people is wearing..i just have to look good all the time!

plus i live in an area where the desis wear lawn suits on weddings..

so its not my fault =D

Sara516 · Sep 18th, 2009, 10:04 PM

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Originally Posted by marwah

my mom on the other hand doesn't care where she's going, she likes dressing up, and when i tell her not to wear something so fancy because so and so are going to be there and they dress very simpley, my mom's like so what? just because they don't know how to dress, doesn't mean i shouldn't dress well either and plus, when am i ever going to wear these then?

hahahaha so right!!! why shud i downplay it when everyone else dresses like a bum?

last time i overdressed...it was really embarrassing for me. so i'd nver want to be that awkward again. urf.