MehnazQ

How long do the uterus cramps (while the uterus is growing) last? Do women have it with each pregnancy or is it normally with the first one only?

Ira

Mehnaz, i am not sure how long these cramps last but from what i have heard people get them not only with the first but subsequent pregnancies as well. Again, some folks say they dont start having them until later in the pregnancy. Each person and each of their pregnancies can be different but i am sure the mothers here can shed more light on this.

fazeelat

dont be afraid of delivery....at the time of my delivery i was so relaxed and felt less(controlable )pain, coz in all my pregnancy i just made up my mind that...tthe delivery pain is not so hard, i m strong i can bear it...and u cant believe, i felt nothing very very dificult. coz psychology says it all about our mind.....u just have to control it then it will control ur pain.

nuzhat

thanks for the advice mamaof3...Im so tired of my pregnency now that i just want it over. I wanna hold my little baby in my arms now...aaahh

Pyaari83

fazeelat: I know I probably need to do that too...tell myself that there will be no pain. But just the thought of delivery and how it is done scares me too...Inshallah I hope everything goes smooth.

Nuzhat: Ur tired...ur closer to ur delivery....I am already tired I still have 5 months. =( All this sickness and not wanting to eat this or that...its driving me crazy.

ChupKeSe

first of all---BAHUT batameez ho!!! batayaa tak nahin!
2nd of all--bahut bahut mubarak ho!!! i'm SOO happy for u! n i pray inshAllah everything will go well for u

n lastly--- besides from reading quran...when u r in the delivery room recite "Ya Allah Ya Rahman Ya Raheem" Keep repeating that and inshAllah Allah will help you get thru it easily. There's nothing better than reciting Allah's names at all times.

Pyaari83

^ I am sowwie for not telling u! Maaf kardo....I have been so sick its hard to explain....but now I am better mashallah. Thanks for the dua I will Inshallah recite them!

shay9164

Pyaari may Allah swt give you all the happiness in the world

hareem01

When you're in delievery room the pain makes you forget everything.

hareem01

yeah right.

somegroovychick

maybe it didn't work for you that way, but why you gotta be all cynical and scare the new mom's to be?
no one said its gonna be a cake-walk, but it also doesn't mean they'll be doing it in the middle of a forest with no help from anyone! there will be doctors, pain relief, and family iA to provide love and support. i have a lot of friends who've been thru opposite ends of the pain spectrum, so it is entirely possible to have an easy birth.

Mamaof3

I have had the range - both very easy and very hard births and I have to say that even the worst one was not more pain than I was able to bear. Thats a gift that God gives to us as women - that we are very strong so He does not burden us with more than we can bear. Yes, there is pain. But its much more accurately hard work....hence the word "labor"

Try not to worry ladies, you WILL get thru it!

yourfriend

ofcourse u will get through it but the point is why nobody talks about the labor pain (and dont forget the breast pain afterwards). .... during my time everybody told me what to do or expect before and after the baby but why no one mentally prepared me about the severe pains that i would have to go through too? since my pregnancy period was very easy, these extreme pains i was not expecting at all. i think women should talk about it too.
now that i have been through it, i know what to expect for my second one.

Mamaof3

YF, my experience was a bit different....I endured so many tales of horror about pain that was SO bad you just wanna DIE....I mean aside from the exaggeration of it, whats the point of striking terror into the heart of an expectant mother? Most especially when even the worst delivery is endurable and the pain is so very forgettable.

hareem01

I'd say to every new mum hope for the best and expect the worst.

hareem01

It doesn't work for most women, I'm just trying to prepare them.
And she(thread starter) asked about the pain and experiences we went through during child-birth, so I'm gonna write what I've been through and how I felt, people told me before labour that its easy etc and it didn't work at all. I was hoping for a heavy period pain but it was much worst.

hareem01

Second time is usually easier and quicker than the first time.

seashell

I feel the 9 months of pregnancy are far worse than the delivery...so dont be afraid.Read quran e paak every day and inshallah allah will help you through it all. With my first baby i had the epidural and didnt feel a thing, however i hated how it made me groggy and sick, also i lost all sensation, couldnt even push properly. The second time around the baby came sooo fast no one knew what happened, one min the nurse is putting iv on me and the next min im delivering...so yeah its possible to have a good labour and delivery. Obviously it is very painful but nothing that you wont be able to handle inshallah. Btw i lost A LOT of hair about 3months after my baby was born so dont be freaked out if that happens...congrats and good luck

seashell

Oh and the pain of labour is the most easily forgotten pain there is...why else would women go on to have more babies!

hareem01

I 'd suggest you should attend the class. I think people who praise and use pain relievers specially epidurals don't attend these antenatal classes otherwise they wouldn't recommend it to you.

MehnazQ

When does the stomach itchiness normally start?

Pyaari83

Shay: Thanks for ur duas! hareem and yourfriend: I know that having kids is not easy.....I went through a lot during my second month...but now that it is over I am happy and almost forgot it happened....I just have back pain now...inshallah I hope everything goes well. Seashell: The baby must make u forget about everything...mashallah those people are blessed that can have children Mehnaz: Mine kinda started...I think it depends....but when ur stomach starts getting bigger and start showing.

Pyaari83

I know in PK they have those sayings if u do this u will have girl or if u do that u will have a boy....I will tell u one that I heard. If you get pregnant in the first 14 days when new moon starts u will have girl and last 14 days u will have boy...has anyone tried that? And did it work? Share some of urs....

dewani teri

i think ppl have the funniest ways to predict babies' genders...at the end of the day..only an ultrasound can truly indicate..and sometimes if your baby isn't cooperating in there, it can be impossible to get a hint!

i heard a whole bunch o ways ppl try to figure it out...moon cycles...times you feel nauseated in the day...the way your tummy looks..but i mean come on!! everyone's body is different, boys and girls are born everyday, and it is all up to allah swt! the end!!

dewani teri

i think its around the 2nd trimester. and oh man when it starts..it starts!!!

question...was everyone itchy, or were you lucky and didn't feel itchy?

seashell

Palmers coco butter is supposed to help with the itch and strech marks, my friend used it during her pregnancy and said it really helped with the itch.

s_mk

I agree with seashell here, I think the pregnancy is much harder and longer than the delivery.Also , after the real labor starts , your sort of in a daze I guess would be a good way to put it...your in another dimension hehe -and maybe thats why women forget and have other babies
Well at least thats my theory heh

yourfriend

dewani teri... even the ultra sound could be wrong... it was wrong in my case even though the position of the baby was fine. although its not very common, but it did happen to few other people too. i think the shape of your tammy does tell a lot.
Pyaari83... i know pain is forgetable... no wonder why i wanted to have another one right away .... but what amazes me that women complains about EVERYTHING (forgetable/unforgetable... curable/incurable..or watever) in the world, then howcome I have NEVER heard anyone complaining about those pains.. anyway, its just me