Male perspective: in-laws

**PyariCgudia** · Dec 19th, 2009 11:03 PM

My naani's side is coming into town and already Dad is peeing in his pants. They had a flight delay in JFK and have been getting my father to make alternate flight and hotel arrangements - all stuff they can do themselves.

How do you married men deal with demanding and fussy in-laws.

We don't prepare at all for family from my dad's side visiting. But we've spent all day turning the house upside down for mom's family. I've never done so much housework in my life. Dad has been running around on shopping errands for his inlaws and now that we have more time he is gonna try fixing some paint issues around the house tomorrow.

I'm like...really? It's not like a dulhan is coming to the home...

My dad is like going out of his way to show how scared he is for his inlaws (their flight got delayed...it's not like someone is dying) and constantly is telling my mom how concerned he is for them.

What a suck up.

Is this something you see? In-laws having their damaads so freaked?

**Marwah** · Dec 19th, 2009 11:19 PM

your dad seems like a very nice man.

**Iconoclast** · Dec 19th, 2009 11:26 PM

May be they bringing a nice young man with them

**NJMasti** · Dec 20th, 2009 03:57 AM

give him a break yaar!

If he does it -it's a problem.. if he does not show care and affection - it would still be a problem... I feel sorry for him

**Pareezay** · Dec 20th, 2009 04:14 AM

My husband is treated like royalty among my family and friends. He shares a great and comfortable relationship with all of them so I can never see him being scared/worried to please them or imagine my family making him do stuff. However when I visit my inlaws, my mother in law does what you mentioned: new bedsheets for me (I have bad allergies so she makes sure nothing happens), new shower curtains, new towels, make room in my hubby's closet for my stuff, laundry and iron my clothes as soon as I put them in the hamper, stocking up my favorite cereal/snacks, and having her cleaning lady tidy up each and every corner of the house every other day.. not that I really even notice all that cleaning, but for my parents in law, it's a big thing when I visit. I have told my mil not to do it but according to her, she wants to make me feel comfortable while I'm away from my parents home.

**cricketplaya** · Dec 20th, 2009 04:34 AM

Maybe just maybe try to bring the good qualities that your dad shows, in YOU! I would be ashamed calling you my daughter. aho

CM · Dec 20th, 2009 05:04 AM

In who? Oh you mean the people I plan on meeting once a year? Yeah they aren't that important.

**mall** · Dec 20th, 2009 05:20 AM

Originally Posted by Pareezay

My husband is treated like royalty among my family and friends. He shares a great and comfortable relationship with all of them so I can never see him being scared/worried to please them or imagine my family making him do stuff. However when I visit my inlaws, my mother in law does what you mentioned: new bedsheets for me (I have bad allergies so she makes sure nothing happens), new shower curtains, new towels, make room in my hubby's closet for my stuff, laundry and iron my clothes as soon as I put them in the hamper, stocking up my favorite cereal/snacks, and having her cleaning lady tidy up each and every corner of the house every other day.. not that I really even notice all that cleaning, but for my parents in law, it's a big thing when I visit. I have told my mil not to do it but according to her, she wants to make me feel comfortable while I'm away from my parents home.

MA MA all i can say.. u r a lucky girl.. such carin MIL..

**JimmyKimble** · Dec 20th, 2009 07:51 AM

I tried 3 time but I could not read beyond " already Dad is peeing in his pants."

Whats the matter with you PCG? he is your dad... I think you are listening you mum too much about him.
This sounds like a women talking about her Ex husband or the husband she hates.

**icebreaker** · Dec 20th, 2009 08:05 AM

Maybe the future "Son in law" (read your husband) is comming along lolz

RUn PCG RUN!...what you gona do now

**PyariCgudia** · Dec 20th, 2009 08:12 AM

Jesus. There is no future sil. Their kids are all babies. Idiots.

**JimmyKimble** · Dec 20th, 2009 08:13 AM

How many idiots among guests ?

**PyariCgudia** · Dec 20th, 2009 08:13 AM

Originally Posted by CM

In who? Oh you mean the people I plan on meeting once a year? Yeah they aren't that important.

Well aren't you mr. Wonderful.

**icebreaker** · Dec 20th, 2009 08:14 AM

^^^^ who said that the future SIL is comming along....

They might only be bringing the rishta ..with the photo!.. lolz

PCG......you can run...but u cant hide...lolz...

P.S.......i know your blushing...

**PyariCgudia** · Dec 20th, 2009 08:19 AM

No. I know my family. There are no photos.

**icebreaker** · Dec 20th, 2009 08:23 AM

^^^ alright.... i will not tease your further...lolz....

So is it the first time your nani's family comming into USA or to meet your? Maybe its just been along time...?

P.S. Get the guppies approval before you say yes

**PyariCgudia** · Dec 20th, 2009 09:13 AM

The family is here for medical treatment for their disabled kid. Not to help me get hitched.

**DramayBazz** · Dec 20th, 2009 03:13 PM

he is damned if he does and damned if he doesn't

sorry i don't get the q...he is helping your mother in welcoming her family, i don't see it as him being 'scared' or 'sucking up'. as you said yourself "We don't prepare at all for family from my dad's side visiting", maybe you are just not used to seeing family being welcomed warmly in your house, appreciate your dad for doing so and remind your mother of this gesture the next time his family comes for a visit.

**PyariCgudia** · Dec 20th, 2009 03:14 PM

True. I don't think she realizes how much of an effort he's putting in, despite the fact that he doesn't like her brother much.

**DramayBazz** · Dec 20th, 2009 03:22 PM

ya you should bring it to her attention. having in-laws over, if you don't get along with them, is hard, so bravo to your dad for going out of his way to be accomodating.

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