WHen you are ready to have a child with the one you want to spend the rest of your life with and when it actually happens, its the most wondrous thing that you could possibly imagine. So naturally, you want to share, you want others to experience this incredible happiness and fulfillment.
I used to think I would never ever have kids. THey were gross, disgusting, drooly, poopy little creatures that required constant attention that I did not have patience to give. Yet once I had my very own, I turned into one of those dreaded aunties that encourage proliferation of the species lol!
Its nothing more than wanting to share the wonder and joy of life.
I'm not arguing with you, I think you hallucinate. Do you really call your Opinion "OPINION"?
What a dishearting opinion is that? Did you read my opinion on that? Leave the "rude" comments or whatever you blame me for out!
I don't think you're serious. Answer me the damn question I'm asking all the friggin' time. I'm asking for third time:
Weren't you once kids? Were you friggin' PERFECT?
WERE YOU?
WERE YOU?
WERE YOU?
I used to get SO totally grossed out and annoyed when people forced their little drooly, poopy, whiny kids at me and I SWORE I'd NEVA NEVA!!! lol!!!
It is SO very different when you're READY. When you're ready, thats it and you dont see grossness, you dont get annoyed, you see someone who is completely dependent on YOU and YOU alone.
Before that, its a different story. If you arent ready, us aunties should keep our mouths shut as much as possible. Its not always possible cause we are just so overwhelmed with the joys/sorrows/challenges/triumphs of parenthood. Its truly the toughest job you will ever love...but heck, you have to be ready for it and sometimes its hard for us aunties to stop shoving this down your young throats yeah?
Enjoy your life as much as you can. And when you're READY and you have your little ones, THEN you will really and truly enjoy life. I do not say this in a mean way at all. I say it as one who has been thru it and has come to realize the true meaning of life - as I personally see it.
I'm not arguing with you, I think you hallucinate. Do you really call your Opinion "OPINION"?
What a dishearting opinion is that? Did you read my opinion on that? Leave the "rude" comments or whatever you blame me for out!
I don't think you're serious. Answer me the damn question I'm asking all the friggin' time. I'm asking for third time:
Weren't you once kids? Were you friggin' PERFECT?
WERE YOU?
WERE YOU?
WERE YOU?
ur rude first you told me that my views are making u sick then i wuld never be a mother blah blah blah how do u want me to forget that. wats ur way of living love all the kids n make all the adults suffer,dude if ur into getting high im not i dont hallucinate n i was not perfect no one can be but my mother made sure we behave.plz dont take things this seriously u ll get sick Allah na karey
I used to get SO totally grossed out and annoyed when people forced their little drooly, poopy, whiny kids at me and I SWORE I'd NEVA NEVA!!! lol!!!
It is SO very different when you're READY. When you're ready, thats it and you dont see grossness, you dont get annoyed, you see someone who is completely dependent on YOU and YOU alone.
Before that, its a different story. If you arent ready, us aunties should keep our mouths shut as much as possible. Its not always possible cause we are just so overwhelmed with the joys/sorrows/challenges/triumphs of parenthood. Its truly the toughest job you will ever love...but heck, you have to be ready for it and sometimes its hard for us aunties to stop shoving this down your young throats yeah?
Enjoy your life as much as you can. And when you're READY and you have your little ones, THEN you will really and truly enjoy life. I do not say this in a mean way at all. I say it as one who has been thru it and has come to realize the true meaning of life - as I personally see it.
lolz well plz dont think i wrote that i dont like kids i do even when someone is forcing me to talk to them or play with them i do, i was only talking about the ones that are batamezz n their folks dont say anything at all
are you serious or didn't I smoke proper ganja today?
Do kids break things intentionally? who doesn't fight? Some kids may be on crack, but you can't generalize it. What makes you impatient? We have to deal with it, we can't run away...
The only thing we can do is making them better human beings. Better than us, because I see alot of flaws in myself, here @GS. The thinking has changed. Man proposes, God disposes.
I'm obsessed by kids and I'd show my kid to everyone. You play with the kid, the kid will be grateful. Be creative, do something with a kid, do what you want. Make the kids smile, ask them about their interests. Kids have a tongue, kids have feelings, you're not told to adopt the kid. Give him/her few good moments.
You all were kids once, what happened to you? Were you all PERFECT?
@Soni:
I hope the people you're talkin' about read what you wrote. I hope they never THROW their kid infront of you. That is not only my hope, it is my wish and prayer...I pray no one shall ever throw his kid infront of you and tell you to play with him/her...
well trust me u are not even suppose to say most likely they wont become mothers,y wuld u wanna say something like that u actually think this thread is about people who hate kids no its not so really i think its weird for somone like you to say something like this,aint u suppose to be humble with people even when they are being difficult
well trust me u are not even suppose to say most likely they wont become mothers,y wuld u wanna say something like that u actually think this thread is about people who hate kids no its not so really i think its weird for somone like you to say something like this,aint u suppose to be humble with people even when they are being difficult
So please explain what is this thread about?
The thread starter says she loves only some kids but she finds most of them annoying, now starting a thread about finding children annoying and getting annoyed at those parents/relatives who give attention to their kids in front of others, what does she or others agreeing with her want to prove?
May be:
a) They don't like children.
b) they don't wanna have their own kids.
c) they don't want any kids around them.
And I didn't even state that they wont become mothers, I partly agreed with Numb.
its weird for somone like you to say something like this
PS: Please stop treating me like a holy person. I'm a sinful person.
I may be wrong, but I feel like most of the responders misunderstood Samrali's point. I have four kids, but was not fond of children till I had my own.
There is a world of difference between parents who pay attention to their children while out in public, and parents who think that every conversation must be about the accomplishments of their little ladli.
There are also too many desi parents who foist their brats onto the first available older child/teen/unmarried girl when arriving at someone else's home. Most do not believe in disciplining their young children, and these kids have no manners and no respect for other's property.
It is easy to see why the girls who are constantly stuck babysitting these kids don't want children. You, being younger and unmarried, are unfortunately in a position where you can't tell parents to control their children. I wish I had some advice for you, apart from telling the kids away from their parents to knock it off. I'm fortunate because I'm an old cranky aunty now, and can tell kids in front of their parents about the rules in my home.
The thread starter says she loves only some kids but she finds most of them annoying, now starting a thread about finding children annoying and getting annoyed at those parents/relatives who give attention to their kids in front of others, what does she or others agreeing with her want to prove?
May be:
a) They don't like children.
b) they don't wanna have their own kids.
c) they don't want any kids around them.
And I didn't even state that they wont become mothers, I partly agreed with Numb.
its weird for somone like you to say something like this
PS: Please stop treating me like a holy person. I'm a sinful person.
im not treating you like some holy person y wuld i do that?i m only expecting you to not say that thats all
Last edited by samraali22; Jul 7th, 2008 at 04:39 PM.
Soni27 .... I cannot agree with you more..... but it is a society thing, in Pakistan most housewives lives revolve around their kids only, and because of myopic view of life...not all have..but majority does have. They cannot think outside their own world..which makes them to believe that what they are seeing, feeling, believing is final word and everyone should adhere to their thoughts, beliefs and should enjoy everything that they enjoy doing.
Samraali22...I totally agree with you, your point also branches out from the above delimma which our society has for ages...and cant see it changing.....
Their chonological thinking pattern is something like this......
1. Girl is born......
2. Start pairing them with potential boys in family.........
3. Girl is in school/college....start telling her mom about potential "rishtas"........
4. Girl is in Masters......they get worried....why is not your daughter getting married.....
5. Girl gets married......only couple of weeks have passed......is your daughter pregnant?
6. Girl is not pregnant after 6 months......hey...get her tested its not good...complications ho jaatein hain.....
7. Girls gives birth to first child......Mubarak ho...............BUT.................when is 2nd one coming!
ppl...get a life....there is more to life than just bearing kids......its not that it is not wanted...but all in good time and when hubby and wife are both mentally, emotionally and financially ready....let them live their own lives.....
buttttttt.......having said that...putting babies infront of anyone to play is pretty ridiculous, I would never hand over my baby to anyone who would not offer him/herself to hold him/her.....personally speaking I would not like many ppl to kiss my baby on his/her cheeks as their skin is so soft that invariably they get kinda rashes and very very tiny things on cheeks if their cheeks are in contact with sumthing which is not "very very clean".........
Soni27 .... I cannot agree with you more..... but it is a society thing, in Pakistan most housewives lives revolve around their kids only, and because of myopic view of life...not all have..but majority does have. They cannot think outside their own world..which makes them to believe that what they are seeing, feeling, believing is final word and everyone should adhere to their thoughts, beliefs and should enjoy everything that they enjoy doing.
Samraali22...I totally agree with you, your point also branches out from the above delimma which our society has for ages...and cant see it changing.....
Their chonological thinking pattern is something like this......
1. Girl is born......
2. Start pairing them with potential boys in family.........
3. Girl is in school/college....start telling her mom about potential "rishtas"........
4. Girl is in Masters......they get worried....why is not your daughter getting married.....
5. Girl gets married......only couple of weeks have passed......is your daughter pregnant?
6. Girl is not pregnant after 6 months......hey...get her tested its not good...complications ho jaatein hain.....
7. Girls gives birth to first child......Mubarak ho...............BUT.................when is 2nd one coming!
ppl...get a life....there is more to life than just bearing kids......its not that it is not wanted...but all in good time and when hubby and wife are both mentally, emotionally and financially ready....let them live their own lives.....
buttttttt.......having said that...putting babies infront of anyone to play is pretty ridiculous, I would never hand over my baby to anyone who would not offer him/herself to hold him/her.....personally speaking I would not like many ppl to kiss my baby on his/her cheeks as their skin is so soft that invariably they get kinda rashes and very very tiny things on cheeks if their cheeks are in contact with sumthing which is not "very very clean".........
why do you put theories into this discussion and not facts? I didn't understand the first part. To be honest, I didn't understand your whole post
can you please clearly tell us and especially me what you want to say?
I think most of your relatives/friends want the best and this why they may keep asking you when is she gettin' married, when is the baby coming! Is it forbidden or is a sin committed if people ask you these questions? Plus not only girls have these so called "start pairing them with boys"...this happens to boys as well.
Start telling them about potential rishtas...A potential rishta is not a rishta. Someday we have to make decisions, if you don't wanna marry, fine...
Girl is in Masters, why isn't she gettin' married?
Dunyaadaari kama ke kiya karna hai? God has given roles to men and women. Men is responsible for the financial side and women for household. That doesn't mean that men can come home, put his feet above the table and say "I want my food"...No it's not meant like that, it's not supposed to be that. We men are also told to help in the household.
If we would have the understanding for each other, this world would be a better place.
These 7 friggin' points...who says get her tested? Is it a sin aggar damn it pooch liya hai ke "is your girl pregnant?" And the last point?! Are you serious?!!! I NEVER EVER HEARD IN MY FRIGGIN' LIFE ASKIN' SOMEONE AFTER THE FIRST ONE IS BORN, WHEN IS THE SECOND ONE COMING...
WAKE UP AND GET A LIFE, this AIN'T A PLACE FOR FAIRYTALES...
Why is it ridiculous for you to put your baby infront of anyone? A logical answer please! You get rashes from kisses? What does that mean? Your last two sentences, tell me, are you on dope or sumthin' like that? Are you drunk? What did you write there, what does that mean. Damn it what does your mind want to say?
why do you put theories into this discussion and not facts? I didn't understand the first part. To be honest, I didn't understand your whole post [/FONT]
If you did not understand the first or any part of the post then lodge a complaint to nature…..not with me!
can you please clearly tell us and especially me what you want to say? I think most of your relatives/friends want the best and this why they may keep asking you when is she gettin' married,
how does getting married is wishing best? What basis have you used to determine that worrying about getting married is wishing them best
married when is the baby coming! Is it forbidden or is a sin committed if people ask you these questions?
Are we discussing sin..did I say sin…I cant see….. you should get your eyes tested before this gets worse.
or you have Plus not only girls have these so called "start pairing them with boys"...this happens to boys as well.
So……………………..does two wrongs make one right……?
Start telling them about potential rishtas...A potential rishta is not a rishta. Someday we have to make decisions, if you don't wanna marry, fine...
But is that all that is in the life of a girl….why don’t they discuss what profession she want to join, which school she wants to go to, which career she should choose….why excessive interest in marriage only…and would she get married only if they discuss……..
Girl is in Masters, why isn't she gettin' married?Dunyaadaari kama ke kiya karna hai? God has given roles to men and women. Men is responsible for the financial side and women for household. That doesn't mean that men can come home, put his feet above the table and say "I want my food"...No it's not meant like that, it's not supposed to be that. We men are also told to help in the household.
What are you trying to say..pretty chauvinistic comment I would say……and then in your four sentences you are deviating……keep it straight at least in four consecutive lines…..
If we would have the understanding for each other, this world would be a better place. These 7 friggin' points...who says get her tested? Is it a sin aggar damn it pooch liya hai ke "is your girl pregnant?" And the last point?! Are you serious?!!! I NEVER EVER HEARD IN MY FRIGGIN' LIFE ASKIN' SOMEONE AFTER THE FIRST ONE IS BORN, WHEN IS THE SECOND ONE COMING...
If you did not hear..then it does not exist…..kewl theory!WAKE UP AND GET A LIFE, this AIN'T A PLACE FOR FAIRYTALES...
Fairytales…….what are you trying to say….it looks like you like meddling in ppls affairs….and it looks it hurt you too much….keep interfering…..nothing can change ppl like you…….
Why is it ridiculous for you to put your baby infront of anyone? A logical answer please! You get rashes from kisses? What does that mean? Your last two sentences, tell me, are you on dope or sumthin' like that? Are you drunk? What did you write there, what does that mean. Damn it what does your mind want to say?
It CERTAINLY is my business, if I want to put my baby in front of ppl or not, certainly not yours! I am what I am…I am clean freak and would not want every person on earth to hold and kiss and touch my baby that is my choice….why do you have so much problem with my choice…….
It has nuthin to do with drinking alcohol or being on dope, its about hygiene.....I wish you could look from that perspective too...but I understand why your perspective is so skewed to dope and alcohol!
If you had been taught how to speak and use your language then prolly you would have been more tolerant person……without getting hyper trying to figure out what does other person’s mind want to say
I would not like you to respond to my post…and keep your zillion dollar thoughts with yourself……as I have wasted my five mins on responding to most stupid post on earth! And usually I make same mistake only once……
there is really no point arguing with you.u really cant handle someone with different opinions so wat do i say to a person like that
@numb
lolz well plz dont think i wrote that i dont like kids i do even when someone is forcing me to talk to them or play with them i do, i was only talking about the ones that are batamezz n their folks dont say anything at all
its not just people on gs mostly desis are like this