LostConfused

i wish there was an easier way out of this life
i cant stand it anymore
i have never felt so low ever
and there is no one who understands me
i try to pray to allah and ask his help to change my thinking
i dont know what to do anymore
why did i have to be born a girl
why did i have to be weak
why did i have to have a heart
i hate this pakistani society
i hate it so much
stupid double standards

tweety_pie

its ok, many ppl have felt the way u r ryt now,
but wht's the matter, wht has made u feel this way ???

LostConfused

fight with hubby
he thinks of me as some moron who tells my mom everything when i dont
he has anger issues and doesnt know how to control his temper

mama ki dua

InshAllah things will be fine

Try talking to a close friend (not an internet friend)

LostConfused

i dont have any real friends that i can talk to about this
no one understands

Your President

From your previous thread and now this I think when he runs and tells his mom everything, his mom perhaps tells him that you do the same.
Your best bet to make this work is not to be upset with him. Things like this don't change overnight or within a week or two. Such things take time. You should calm down. Remember, the reason he runs and tells his mom everything is that she gives him a feeling of security and a sense of understanding that no matter what he does, he is accepted by her.
You have to reciprocate that. Become very calm with him. Treat him like he wants to be treated. Make him feel as special as he feels when he runs to his mother. (sad, but true). Slowly, he will see that he doesn't need to run to his mother anymore since all that he needs, he gets from you. THAT'S what you need to take away from his mother. If he gets all he desires from you, he wont need to run to anyone else.
But this will take time. You will have to give up some of your time and a lot of your energy. But in the end, you will have a husband all yours. But remember, don't lose our temper. Two people cannot lose their tempers together and be productive.
Soon, Inshallah, he will be the husband you need him to be.
I know you feel low and depressed but take this on as a challenge. A wife's challenege. You need your husband to be there for you and you're going to make it happen.


ps: Do you have any kids? If you don't, I suggest you hold off on having any just yet.

If you need to talk, you can PM me.
Be safe.

samraali22

aww babe i know wat ur goin through be patient try to explain him when he is in a normal mood,people with anger issues sometimes dont realise it that they need therapy

lahorikudi

yeah judging by your previous posts, I'm gonna agree with YP. The best way to deal with the situation is to be calm with him.
Hope everything works out.

mama ki dua

Try talking to your husband when he's in a good mood

Femme Fatale

Lost Confused please use your journal for personal entries of this nature.