need help..i've kept it in inside me to long:'( - Page 2

Chicken Biryani · Jun 7th, 2009, 05:58 PM

Fizzle,

Most people here have shared some wonderful advise wth you. I would like to tell you something:

No one is perfect, we are all vulnerable one way or the other.... but always remember, love doesnt happen in 3 weeks , when two people enter a relationship, it happens gradually over a period of years maybe ... the formula is as simple as this : the quicker you fall in love, the quicker it will end and you will fall out of that relationship ....

Monk · Jun 7th, 2009, 06:03 PM

You know Amir what pisses me off is that GIRLS never had clue what hit them!!!
They always looking for emotional explanations.

God bless them!!

Fizzels · Jun 7th, 2009, 06:52 PM

Thank you all ever sooo much...well most of you anyways...
i have decided that i will not go and talk to him and leave him to it. I saw him yesterday and he kept glaring at me (as if he wanted 2 talk 2 me)..I went to another room and avoided eye contact. I no longer need sum1 who is so selfish in my life.

No i havnt slept with my ex. the only reason i agreed 2 going out is bc everyone else had one and it never seemed ba. But because my family or me arnt the type who have boyrfriends etc etc i couldnt tell ne1 and i told him over the 9 weeks that i wantd 2 end it and he kept saying no.

I had told him if he was to dump A, it shud be his choice and he shouldnt blame me for it. I didnt go out with him for everyone to be like wow she has a man but bc he was literally begging me and i felt i was the reason he had gne quiet and i didnt let anyone knw anyways...thank you all ever so much!
I appreciated comment. thank you all for writing back.

Aeri-Eye · Jun 7th, 2009, 07:50 PM

This jerk aka your bf needs to be taught a good lesson. He's kind of a guy who would go out with a girl and once he gets what he wants from her - he will dump her.

So NO dont bother going back to him theres no point, if you go back it's like you are calling for trouble again.

And as for you u telling ur would be hubby or not - i say go for it and tell hime bfore someone else does this for you. I mean your other friend b & c waighra waighra know of ur past and what happens if them tell ur would be hubby in future? Just imagine how pissed he will get. So you should just tell him before u get married to him, don't leave it.

Him finding out about ur past from you would be far better than somone else telling him. Trust me

Straight_up · Jun 7th, 2009, 09:04 PM

This happens to majority of the girls during their teens. Just know you're not the only one - however, some are stronger than others and learn from their mistakes and fix up their lives. Others are not so smart and continue to err. Forget about it all - suck it up, move on. Keep better company. Occupy your mind and life with quality stuff. Try out newer things, start over and never look back.

This isn't the end of the world.

queer · Jun 7th, 2009, 09:09 PM

what course was this that had 150 girls and 5 boys?

Straight_up · Jun 7th, 2009, 09:11 PM

I am thinking it's a girls only school and the boys are just chaprassis.

redvelvet · Jun 7th, 2009, 09:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Fizzels

Thank you all ever sooo much...well most of you anyways...
i have decided that i will not go and talk to him and leave him to it. I saw him yesterday and he kept glaring at me (as if he wanted 2 talk 2 me)..I went to another room and avoided eye contact. I no longer need sum1 who is so selfish in my life.

Fizzels, the "glaring" that he is doing is basically a juvenile method of getting your attention. He believes that such extreme behavior will get you to notice him. This behavior in itself is a SIGN that he's a LOSER. There are POSITIVE ways to get someone's attention as well. For example, he could simply go up to you and talk to you and APOLOGIZE. But instead he wants you to chase him. This guy doesn't seem to have a conscience. You are doing the RIGHT and SMART thing by ignoring him. Don't EVER resume friendship with him again.

No i havnt slept with my ex. the only reason i agreed 2 going out is bc everyone else had one and it never seemed ba. But because my family or me arnt the type who have boyrfriends etc etc i couldnt tell ne1 and i told him over the 9 weeks that i wantd 2 end it and he kept saying no.

He kept saying "No?" This guy doesn't have mature communication skills. He will dump a girl without giving her a reason. He won't explain to a girl why he is ignoring her. And on top of that...........he doesn't even listen when a girl says to him she's not comfortable having a relationship with him. He's only concerned about himself and his needs at the expense of others. You're not obligated to tell your future spouse about your past relationships. Refer to the Islamic website link I posted above which deals with this issue.

I had told him if he was to dump A, it shud be his choice and he shouldnt blame me for it. I didnt go out with him for everyone to be like wow she has a man but bc he was literally begging me and i felt i was the reason he had gne quiet and i didnt let anyone knw anyways...thank you all ever so much!
I appreciated comment. thank you all for writing back.

He doesn't know how to communicate. He's too immature to tell a girl why he's dumping her. He's too immature to apologize. And he's too immature to accept his mistakes and would much rather blame others. He can't face the fact that he has made a mistake. WAY TOO MUCH EGO. Tomorrow, when he gets a job, he'll blame his coworkers and boss for the mistakes HE makes. He'll blame his future wife for cheating on her. He's still a baby....just ignore him. That will HURT his EGO like HELL. What goes around comes around. He'll get what he deserves

hitchki · Jun 7th, 2009, 10:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Straight_up

I am thinking it's a girls only school and the boys are just chaprassis.

LOL

zobia · Jun 7th, 2009, 11:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Straight_up

I am thinking it's a girls only school and the boys are just chaprassis.

hahahhaha...

Fizzels · Jun 7th, 2009, 11:53 PM

its a girls skwl but alevels are mixed...

thnk you all sooo much..

and yes he does have poor communication skills bc he didnt have the nerve to break if off to my face..he had 2 do it over msn.

Monk · Jun 7th, 2009, 11:55 PM

Gaia · Jun 7th, 2009, 11:56 PM

whats soo funny??

and your slacking!

Monk · Jun 7th, 2009, 11:58 PM

eesy hi hasny ko dil ker raha tha this thread was on the top so

Gaia · Jun 8th, 2009, 12:01 AM

challo pair theek, has lo tum dil koal ker!

Monk · Jun 8th, 2009, 12:03 AM

larkion meen dimagh kion naheen hota ??

Gaia · Jun 8th, 2009, 12:06 AM

Excuse me?

Monk · Jun 8th, 2009, 12:07 AM

not u

bedtime bedtime
aadios

Gaia · Jun 8th, 2009, 12:12 AM

I didn't think it was me, but i hope its not towards the thread starter. If it is some of the other girls will straighten you out, because i'm too sleepy!

Fizzels · Jun 8th, 2009, 12:19 AM

PM-i dont know wat ur problem is..fair enough i made a mistake, but i came here for help...and everyone has been great..helping others is also alot of sawab..
i didnt bug my frnds with this prob bc they're all part of college and i didnt wna make it weird for them..so i came here..its ok if u wna be critical but theres a limit..and u dnt seem to knw it...yes girls get emotional and everything but no need to be so cride about it..if u wna laugh maybe find a suitable thread?
sorry if u think i was being rude..but it needs 2 be sed...at first i ignored it but maybe u wont stop untill i ask u to...if its sumthing useful then please go ahead...as this thread is yours as much as it is mine..tc