redvelvet

Fizzels, the above points have already been made to PM on the previous page. Needless to say, they had no impact. If you choose to become a regular visitor on Gupshup........you will soon come to learn that PM often spews out negative generalizations about women.....which he thinks are hilarious.

I guess sometimes the "Girls Have Cooties" phase, which should have ended in the 2nd grade, carries over into "adulthood."

zobia

app ko to udhar day deya hai

Fizzels

lool...i know...but it seems like sum1 needs 2 kick PM up the arse and make him realise girls are tough cookies...:P

Straight_up

If girls are tough cookies, they better start acting like it.

redvelvet

He's lucky our mode of communication is virtual. Because if we women knew exactly where he lived and what he looked like....you'd see his moderator butt running for dear life.

Iggle

[QUOTE=redvelvet;6566534]I love your posts RV! You give the most amazing advice!

Einstein1

Dimagh tu sab k pas huta hai

notorious

Well, if a male or female lives outside Pakistan, then he or she will always find rishtay from people in Pakistan who want to live in a different country.

But it is true, even when there are only lies spread against you, many people do start treating you negatively. It doesn't matter if you really did do it or not, the mere excistence of stories against you is already enough.

I do think it's less bad for males, we even had Pakistani friends whose son turned to drugs, but even he found a rishta from Pakistan. Why are people in Pakistan so desperate to leave Pakistan that they even accept people with foreign passports whom they normally wouldn't even think about?

notorious

That is so well said! So true!



There is a lot of great advice here, Fizzels. Take it, understand it and good luck insha Allah.

FairyTale

Same goes for the faker gals. They are most successful coz they know all those naaz o adda and lies which can allure any man. And men are sometimes such fools that they cannot differentiate between a genuine and a fake. They only come to know when they are dumped by the same gal but then its too late. Hence proved "Fakers Rule " ....

Why dont you and PM put up your pics on ur profiles. may b koi marr mittay. Mere speeches are not going to bring you any gal. awaaz ke saath tasweer bhi aani chahiye...

FairyTale

lol exactly i thought the same while reading the post first time.

Monk

Fizz read below. what SU said.



finally some one who understands me
RV I admire your efforts so much. Like so very much.
You know some time issue are beyond the realm normal logic. There base cant be found with in our brain.
You definitely are an asset but I suggest you study some unusual stuff/events.

Start from abnormal psychology. Read some true crime stories. Watch some twisted documentary.
That IF you don't have sources to observe twist-ness(if this is a word.) first hand.

amir_pindi

fairty-tale:

so silly.

I think there is a much higher proprotion of girls coming and complaining on lifestyle about guys unloyaltys.
And in real-life guys dumpin/using girl examples are also more common. And also the guy fakers r more common because they have less to loose in terms of society respect when the intended short-relation comes to its end.
So i think its fair to generalise and refer to guys as the fakers.
Although fakers r of both types, Yes fakers are succesful in luring the opposite sex, compared to the honest types like and PM and myself.
We see so many examplesof broken couples due to faker guys, and also the present 'seemingly-happy' couples with guys that we-guys know are fakers, that are likely to break up soon.

so it doesnt make us unrightly jealous.

A guy has ****** like 3-4 girls here..dont you think other men have the feelins...ofcourse i iterated we dont want to pursue his action...but Inspite it is still influencing..and as our honest ways so often fail to yield... lets just continue to hope and pray we dont get forced to utilise the the formers ways.

I mean girls are so high-egoed, its almost impossible to lure them without having or 'demonstrating' something special in us.
Many say that the main things girls really need is a respecting, caring, honest guy. But in reality and soley because of these guys such fair natures they get left behind.-

only when girls realise the worth of these good guys is when thier chosen 'special' ones have dumped them.
But sorry but then we good guys also have self-respect and we dont want the second hand stuff.
Girls should have 'kader' for the Gems in the first instance.

Very sad.

any way--eeri--eyed dude...I too agree with you.

Religiously there is a differance of opinion between whether the girl/guy is liable to disclose thier past to thier new guy/girl.
But if you look at the logic and practicality of todays culture.
For a great majority of people that do not care about spouses past-life, there is also a another great-majority of people that do and have a high importance for it.

So its more prudent to be upfront with your future husband/wife before getting married, and avoid problems and possible catastrophis later on.

Some women and men especially are very possesive about this aspect, so its better not to keep them in the dark.
It is adviseble to first determine indirectly what your proposed spoueses thoughts are on this regard.
But one thing i can tell you confidently if your spouse askes you directly if you about if you had a past or not. i.e have you been touched before or not, then it shows it is important to him and he needs to know in order to decide to marryr u or not.

and I know this is not the exact case (thankfully) here but it also says in the koran that a non-virgin is not to marry a virgin.

And personally being a man, there is nothing that would be more enraging to myself than finding out after marriage my wife had lied to me.

and one should again look at the society he lives in. Men have less pressure potential future danger/loss to them on lieing about thier past the potential danger/loss women have.
Remember however unfair, but the society we live in today expects and emphazizes the chastity of women much more than men.

So not fatwa here, but be mindful, of both sides of the coin, regarding past discloure/concealment.

Any ways Girl we are all on ur side. Prya to Allah rpent for your past, read namaz to Allah to show you the right path and make things easier for you.

and also pray for the quick and publics disgrace, exposure and punishment of the one who did injustice to you.

-or maybe you could pray to Allah to give him akle and change in heart to come back to you and the right path.
It is said the inflicted persons dua is has great strength.

Pakilarka

Fizzels, sorry abt the situation:

Not being critical but just think abt it: dont u think u got a taste of what u did to A ? I think u shldnt have gone out with a guy who was ready to dump a girl for u. When i read it in the beggining of ur post i did assume he was gona do same to u and offcourse as others have said: he is gona do same to c.

Well its a good thing that u r trying to ignore him now, Soon u will not even care abt him and then he will come to u and tell u how sorry he is.....

Monk

PlayStation: TLK put me under witness protection plan.

hitchki

erm, u are doing your ALEVELS

so, CONCENTRATE.

Fizzels

Thanks all!

desigirl786

Get over him. Fast. You can do better. Pray to Allah(SWT) for guidance and think about your parents next time you decide to do something like this.

RealityCheck

you are such a sick man........LLLLLLLOL

RealityCheck

Halankay Allah nai dimaagh ki jaga di hai...