Chipkali

^^^ Erm no, wait until after your assessment if you feel you'll mess it up for the both of you. And seriously, well done! I know your saying you'd hate for him to be hurt and all but to be completely honest, you can't have it both ways. He has to get upset, fall down and pick himself up - you can't have ANY control over that bit.. you only can focus on picking up your own pieces, not his.

And I think once you tell him its over for good, you should not stick around and say hellos/byes.. not even for the whole politeness thing. Seriously, you'll need to leave him alone for him to get over the whole depressed drama.

Otherwise, nice going!

lady_lama

that is n amzing stage to be at!

enjoy it =)

Straight_up

How did you fall out of love in a few days?

alvena

im not out of love at all

but now i know whats best for me.

amir_pindi

Great going Alvena.

There is no security with getting back into a relationship like this boy, So i say leave him for good.

But i advise yo once again, dont meethim alone, especially when hes going to be so emotional. If it has to be only you two mert in somewhere public.

But i still think this boy needs a hard punch in the face, so for messing with your brain and emotions, and the punch will teach him nt to play with a girl again.

If u ever need yours truly, I live in London.

And also take this as a learning step Alvena. And i know im nobody to tell you, but the correct and wise thing is to not mix freely with guys, but if you have to always remain on your guard and beware.

A good rule of thumb to asesss whether if a future guy is serious or not is to ask him if hes willing to talk with your parents.
Guys who are daunted at such assertions are clearly there only for 'short-term' or 'time-passing' relation.

And you should also from your actions/behaviour not appear to men as a potenial 'open'/easy girl.
Have some self-respect and people shall too respect you.

and for gods-sake if you are a muslim girl no man should be touching you at all.

U r doing really well. And im so happy for you.

Wasey Id like to make a public announcement.

Chipkali above is actually RedVelvet.

redvelvet

Amir Pindi,

Perhaps you can ask a Gupshup moderator or administrator or even the director, TLK, to do a mulit-check between Chipkali and Me. And one of these GS authorities can let you know that Chipkali and I are not connected in any way. The fact that I have so BOLDLY and so OPENLY welcomed you to ask the GS administration to check if I am CHIPKALI or not........is a huge sign that there's no connection between us two.

A little detective work such as comparing our profiles and posts before jumping to the conclusion that we both are multis of one another would have been smart. Chipkali and I are friends and have posted on each other's profile walls.....another clue that we're not the same person.

It's flattering to be compared to an intelligent and absolute sweetheart such as Chipkali. However, a respected n intelligent poster like Chipkali should be recognized as an individual....and not a multi of me. It's wrong to spread false informationabout people.

amir_pindi

Ahhh...only said that cos you two have striking resembelenes in your writing style, advice, and the threads you hang on.
Both of you are so strikingly similar i just couldnt hlep expressing myself.

But if your not Chipkali then why did you need to write a thesis on exonerating yourself.

I mean big deal.

ALVENA LAST WORD OF ADVICE and to ALL GIRLS who can learn form this thread:

C'MON:

Girls and Guys should not Mix freely because:

Guys are vulnerbale to Physical Attrcation.
Girls are vulnerbale to Emotional Attraction.

AND YOU KNOW THATS TRUE.

And most of the time that relatinships started on Attrcation basis end up failing, because Attraction blinds us and makes us incapable to see our COMPATIBILITY or NOT with one another... COMPATIBILITY which is the MAIN THING.

Because at the beginning ofcourse 'love and feelins are in the air', but alway later on when thnigs become rational, compatibility comes into play its part, and relations then have to be broken if the was no compatibility.

AND ISLAM also sasy to go for compatibility as the main in looking for a partner.

and Islams advice is best for us. So we should adhere toit. If we dont we (including I) will face the damaging consequcnes of not doing so, until we realise the islamic path.

Dont mind pls anybody. Alevna i hope you learn from this aswell.

Girls are beatiful creatures, but thats is what is thier own biggest enemy, they are vulnerbale to thier emotions in being influenced by people. So thats why in Islam distance is ordained to them from men.

redvelvet

^The difference between me and you is that I only suggested in my posts that you might be Nutwer........whereas you are making an accusation that I'm chipakli. There's a difference between a suggestion and an accusation.

It doesn't matter whether I write a thesis or a one-liner........it will all go over your head anyways. This is too funny. Anyhow I'm over it, Amir. This is too ridiculous to debate any further. You're just making yourself look silly.

amir_pindi

Ok Ok rv. n probs.

Wasey ur advice as usual is perfect.
just love em.

Chipkali

Okay, this is making me laugh now. I already replied to you on the other threads so won't repeat myself here.. Me and redvelvet sound the same? It's a compliment indeed. Now get over it.

alvena

Hello

I would like to thank everyone sincerely for all the help that i have recieved.

Amir, Chipkali, RV, Sweetpip, bhenjee, lady lama and everyone else, sorry if i forgot anyone!

I think my story has come to a close and so should this thread.

xxx

amir_pindi

So happy for uuuuuuuu.

Look at your thread at the start and look at it now. You done so good.
Proud of u.

Well-done.

bhenjee

woww... im back here after a LONG TIME... and yes, I agre with evryone. WAY TO GO ALVENA!!! WE'RE ALL PROUD OF YOU. MAY YOU ALWAYS FIND HAPPINESS IN LIFE, INSHA'ALLAH!!!!

Monk

lady_lama

its not falling out of love

its finally finding the strength and courage to do whats best by urself

way to go alvena!!! good luck in finding someone who is worth ur time =)