My friend who is a shareef guy ... - Page 3

Niksik · Jul 3rd, 2009, 01:21 AM

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Originally Posted by TLK

yes but how

Simple. Take her out for dinner to a fancy restaurant, get her drunk then tell her. That way she will not be able to yell at him and he'd be able to clear his conscience and get back to his shareefhood

Mabrook · Jul 3rd, 2009, 01:31 AM

since he's so shareef that he doesn't wanna break wifey's heart but still tell her n then he might want to continue with his shareef acts coz he might not like to break his friend's hearts so may be the best option is to take his wife with him for the next adventure. may b his wife find it interesting if they do shareef things together like a three or foursome instead of doing akailay akailay n chupkay chupkay. this way wifey won't feel left out u know

TLK · Jul 3rd, 2009, 01:35 AM

wohaa lady mabrook .. who said anything about physical relationships here ..

Slickstar · Jul 3rd, 2009, 01:39 AM

lets be honest, the only reason why he wants to tell his wife is for himself. HE feels guily. HE is scared of Allah and wants to tell her etc etc

This shareef guy is very selfish.

redvelvet · Jul 3rd, 2009, 01:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Niksik

Simple. Take her out for dinner to a fancy restaurant, get her drunk then tell her. That way she will not be able to yell at him and he'd be able to clear his conscience and get back to his shareefhood

And he can take advantage of her drunken state by producing a contract saying something along the lines of:

"I....wifey.......have heard my shareef husband's confession of infidelity and being the shareef wife that I am, have forgiven him because I realize that it is not his fault that he is such a slut...for life is burdensome when an attractive man such as himself is considered to be God's gift to women. I hereby agree with the terms and conditions of this contract stating that I recognize his shareefness and will not penalize him by divorcing his arse and robbing him financially."

Signature________ Date_______

This contract can then be used a evidence in case wifey ever has doubts about his shareefosity in the future.

Chicken Biryani · Jul 3rd, 2009, 02:49 AM

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Originally Posted by Mamaof3

My take on it is that he wants to confess his sins to his wife in order to ease his own guilty conscience. He will feel "better" coming clean but his wife will likely be devastated. His confession would be yet another selfish act on his part.

If he is truly sorry and wants to come clean then all he needs to do is live a clean life. Cherish and honor his wife and keep his guilty conscience to himself until his day of judgement comes and then he can tell it to The Judge.

I completely agree with Mo3 ... Thanks mate for putting it in words so smoothly.

Usually the thought comes , if he doesnt accept his follies now and face the brunt for his actions, would he be able to resist having another affair a few months down the road? coz human nature dictates , once you get away with something so serious , you can be tempted again thinking you will get away yet again !

However on the other hand, when I read advises from scholars they say exactly what Mo3 has said, that if a person genuinely repents and promises himself not to break the code of trust again, then no need to tell his wife as that will only cause immense problems in their marriage. He should seek forgiveness from God for his deeds.

poppies · Jul 3rd, 2009, 03:23 AM

TLK mate- ur friend cant be THAT shareef if hes got himself into what he has

..........!!!!!!!!!!!!

Mabrook · Jul 3rd, 2009, 03:35 AM

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Originally Posted by Chicken Biryani

I completely agree with Mo3 ... Thanks mate for putting it in words so smoothly.

Usually the thought comes , if he doesnt accept his follies now and face the brunt for his actions, would he be able to resist having another affair a few months down the road? coz human nature dictates , once you get away with something so serious , you can be tempted again thinking you will get away yet again !

However on the other hand, when I read advises from scholars they say exactly what Mo3 has said, that if a person genuinely repents and promises himself not to break the code of trust again, then no need to tell his wife as that will only cause immense problems in their marriage. He should seek forgiveness from God for his deeds.

CB i don't think TLK is seriously asking for any advice here. he's just mocking his so called "Shareef" friend and enjoying at his misery. am i rite TLK?

Mabrook · Jul 3rd, 2009, 03:38 AM

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Originally Posted by TLK

wohaa lady mabrook .. who said anything about physical relationships here ..

oh achcha so does he teach those gals Namaz ka sahee tareeqa?in such a case he's all clean and shouldn't feel guilty at all.

Chicken Biryani · Jul 3rd, 2009, 04:00 AM

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Originally Posted by Mabrook

CB i don't think TLK is seriously asking for any advice here. he's just mocking his so called "Shareef" friend and enjoying at his misery. am i rite TLK?

I thought it was serious since it was in this forum !

PS : Thanks for letting me know though

TLK · Jul 3rd, 2009, 01:39 PM

Mabrook , sanoo kee pataa ke kiya sikhata hai kailay main .. I was just saying that I did not talk about any phsycial relationship in my entry ...

OH ho CB, its a serious discssion, aap mabrrook ko chorain aur mujh se baat karain

and your comment about I thought it was serious since it was in this forum ... jaisay baqi entries yahaan pe bohut serious hoti hain naa that you are questioning mine

AnGeL EyEs · Jul 3rd, 2009, 01:46 PM

how is he shareef if he is having an affair?

ok here is my advice (a lot of u may not agree with this)

he doesnt need to confess anything to his wife. If he wants to continue being married to her he needs to stop what he is doing immediately, repent to Allah SWT for what he has done and spend the rest of his life keeping his wife happy by behaving the way a husband should....which if he is Muslim would be in accordance to the sunnah.

Confessing will just cause her to either leave him or carry ill feelings towards him while they are married. she will have a hard time trusting him again which will eventually lead to a failed and/or unhappy marriage.

TLK · Jul 3rd, 2009, 01:57 PM

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Originally Posted by AnGeL EyEs

ok here is my advice (a lot of u may not agree with this)

he doesnt need to confess anything to his wife..

you da man AE

AnGeL EyEs · Jul 3rd, 2009, 01:59 PM

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Originally Posted by TLK

you da man AE

it would have been nice if you quoted the rest of it as well.

TLK · Jul 3rd, 2009, 02:06 PM

Guys have selective hearing AE .. dont you know that ?...

AnGeL EyEs · Jul 3rd, 2009, 02:07 PM

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Originally Posted by TLK

Guys have selective hearing AE .. dont you know that ?...

oh yes how could i forget!!

regardless i stand by my words....

"he shouldnt tell his wife"

Bubbahlicious.x · Jul 3rd, 2009, 02:13 PM

The truth ALWAYS comes out. It's better coming from him, maybe she'll respect the fact that he finally came clean cos he felt guilty? You never know! Make sure he repents and makes it up to her if she wants to stay with him.

Chicken Biryani · Jul 5th, 2009, 04:49 PM

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Originally Posted by TLK

Mabrook , sanoo kee pataa ke kiya sikhata hai kailay main .. I was just saying that I did not talk about any phsycial relationship in my entry ...

OH ho CB, its a serious discssion, aap mabrrook ko chorain aur mujh se baat karain

and your comment about I thought it was serious since it was in this forum ... jaisay baqi entries yahaan pe bohut serious hoti hain naa that you are questioning mine

.. sorry TLK , mein log ki bato mei aa gayi

**getting in a serious mode again **