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Sep 9th, 2009, 03:10 PM
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I have heard from many of my married friends in pakistan that you can not enjoy your married life in pakistan in the way that people would enjoy with a girlfriend or someone living in the west. they say that you can not do or discuss things with them that are taboo. you have to be very conservative in your sexual relations etc etc.
is that really so? i thought the basic purpose of marriage was to make sure that you both took every possible step to accomodate each other. if that is not happening, what is the purpose of marriage anyway?
the game of snakes and ladders captures the eternal truth that for every ladder there is a snake waiting around the corner. and for every snake there a ladder will compensate.
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Sep 9th, 2009, 03:14 PM
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Well, I wouldn't generalise that no married couple in Pakistan is having fun.
Depends alot on the couple, their education, families etc. But there are some stupid issues though e.g. you cannot hug or kiss your wife in public and not even in a secluded spot in a park or anything.
What happens in the cozy darkness of the bedroom is another story though and varies 
Waise I do hope desi couples make out ??
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Sep 9th, 2009, 03:14 PM
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What is your secret sexual fantasy?
The victories of men depend on their ability to signal their intention, impose their will and act with alarming speed in the battlefield.
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Sep 9th, 2009, 03:16 PM
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^ lolz.... 
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Sep 9th, 2009, 03:23 PM
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lol - such silliness!
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Sep 9th, 2009, 03:24 PM
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The thing is people talk when you tell aunties your bed life. Do not tell the Spanish inquisition and every thing will be fine!
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Sep 9th, 2009, 03:25 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by jaanaan
if that is not happening, what is the purpose of marriage anyway?
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exactly! if both couples are educated enough (religion wise) then I can bet they have more fun than regular couples ... if 1 is educated, he/she should politely educate the other, that's how marriage works. unfortunately, we desis are just too shy... dunno why...
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Originally Posted by snowy_winter
But there are some stupid issues though e.g. you cannot hug or kiss your wife in public and not even in a secluded spot in a park or anything.
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in Islam it's not jaiz to make out in public (showing affection)
"Let us make wudu and use our Islamic etiquettes to stay clean and in good health inshallah - that's the Muslim vaccine."
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Sep 9th, 2009, 03:29 PM
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Looks like people have gone mad in general 
Happiness often sneaks in through a door you didn't know you left open...
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Sep 9th, 2009, 03:46 PM
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^ lack of food in stomach leads to craziness in the brain
A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort.
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Sep 9th, 2009, 03:48 PM
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I see 
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Sep 9th, 2009, 03:53 PM
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Quote:
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What is your secret sexual fantasy?
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Everything about you is how I'd wanna be..your freedom comes naturally.
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Sep 9th, 2009, 04:06 PM
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^^^Marwah- your avatar looks like it is auditioning for a part in a Bollywood song  .
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Sep 9th, 2009, 04:08 PM
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^psh, bollywood couldn't get a hold of him if they tried :P
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Sep 9th, 2009, 06:06 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by snowy_winter
you cannot hug or kiss your wife in public and not even in a secluded spot in a park or anything.
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Wife kissing in secluded spot in a park is only necessary when its not your wife you are kissing. Apni wife ko araaam se ghar laa ke kiss ker lo. itni jaldi kis baat kee hai
"Some people can read War and Peace and come away thinking it's a simple adventure story. Others can read the ingredients on a chewing gum wrapper and unlock the secrets of the universe."~Lex Luthor
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Sep 9th, 2009, 07:41 PM
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^LOL, a friend of mine used to say about couples holding hands in Bagh-e-Jinah,
"Hath enj pharya so, jiveiN dour challi ae" (Hath aisey pakra howa hai, jaisey bhaag jaye gi)
ToooN Lang Ja, saadi kher ae
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Sep 9th, 2009, 07:43 PM
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I think it would all matter on frankness between the couple and what they're comfortable with.
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Sep 9th, 2009, 08:49 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by jaanaan
I have heard from many of my married friends in pakistan that you can not enjoy your married life in pakistan in the way that people would enjoy with a girlfriend or someone living in the west. they say that you can not do or discuss things with them that are taboo. you have to be very conservative in your sexual relations etc etc.
is that really so? i thought the basic purpose of marriage was to make sure that you both took every possible step to accomodate each other. if that is not happening, what is the purpose of marriage anyway?
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I've heard that girls get scared of being too "eager" because the guy can suspect them of being with a guy before, or if later on, they are too willing or have high sex drives...the husband (or others) will think badly of them.
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Sep 9th, 2009, 08:54 PM
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^Which is pretty sad actually. In fact, one of the husband's duty in Islam is caring for the sexual fulfillment of his wife.
Instead, I feel as if our culture has made that haram.
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Sep 9th, 2009, 08:56 PM
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my expectations of marriage include making out.
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Sep 9th, 2009, 09:42 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by snowy_winter
Waise I do hope desi couples make out ??
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Sure. Just not with each other
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