Divorce - Page 3

aurchaepiyo · Nov 4th, 2009, 09:51 PM

Ummm: What's a khula?

The Pakistani system is very hard: you are supposed to make your husband the center of your universe, and then he cheats on you and it's over. Naturally she's going to be going through a hard time.

The most important thing is to begin a new life, a new project, and to keep telling herself that she didn't deserve that kind of treatment, and that she won't put up with it now or in the future.

Hopefully.

Aisha Dubaiwali · Nov 6th, 2009, 04:48 PM

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Originally Posted by diwana

Got it. Once she find someone, she'll get over it. :-)

I hope so

diwana · Nov 7th, 2009, 02:11 AM

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Originally Posted by Aisha Dubaiwali

I hope so

You don't sound so sure.

She made the decision, now she has to move on.

Aisha Dubaiwali · Nov 7th, 2009, 03:58 AM

She has to move on but I am just worried for her, how long it will take for her to move on etc.

diwana · Nov 7th, 2009, 04:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Aisha Dubaiwali

She has to move on but I am just worried for her, how long it will take for her to move on etc.

You never know. If the door is open, someone might come inside, then it will be up to her to decide.

Aisha Dubaiwali · Nov 8th, 2009, 03:25 AM

yeh thats true

but anyways she has to wait to 6 months i think after the divorce/khula period to let someone in the door innit

diwana · Nov 8th, 2009, 10:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Aisha Dubaiwali

yeh thats true

but anyways she has to wait to 6 months i think after the divorce/khula period to let someone in the door innit

Why do you think it is 6 months?

Aisha Dubaiwali · Nov 8th, 2009, 10:33 AM

Islamic Iddat period? 3 months she has to wait Islamically and after that it will take her time to find someone else isnt it?

Hashmat Usmani · Nov 8th, 2009, 10:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Aisha Dubaiwali

Islamic Iddat period? 3 months she has to wait Islamically and after that it will take her time to find someone else isnt it?

no...its 4 months and 10 days. its just to amke sure that she isn't pregnant with her ex husband in order to establish the paternity of the unborn child [if she is pregnant]

i ain't sure but if u can, thru the medical tests, can be sure that she ain't pregnant then i think iddat period is unnecessary especially if the woman has to earn a living and she can't sit home.

Aisha Dubaiwali · Nov 8th, 2009, 10:39 AM

I read somewhere it is 3 months? I am getting confused now. No she is definitely NOT pregnant. She did have sex with him once but that was ages ago. If she was pregnant she would have had a kid by now. Well she does not need to make a living as such so is Iddat still necessary?

Hashmat Usmani · Nov 8th, 2009, 10:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Aisha Dubaiwali

I read somewhere it is 3 months? I am getting confused now. No she is definitely NOT pregnant. She did have sex with him once but that was ages ago. If she was pregnant she would have had a kid by now. Well she does not need to make a living as such so is Iddat still necessary?

it is 4 months and 10 days. personally, i think she may not need at all...its not necessary at all.

Aisha Dubaiwali · Nov 8th, 2009, 10:51 AM

Are you Sunni or Shia? Sorry I have to ask because I have always heard it as 3 months!

Hashmat Usmani · Nov 8th, 2009, 10:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Aisha Dubaiwali

Are you Sunni or Shia? Sorry I have to ask because I have always heard it as 3 months!

sunni Hanafii baba its 3 Haiz [mentural cycles] so it depends when a divorce is given

Aisha Dubaiwali · Nov 8th, 2009, 11:26 AM

I am sunni wahabi but I don't know if it matters. I guess I read some wrong information on a website. So its 4 months 10 days?

Hashmat Usmani · Nov 8th, 2009, 11:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Aisha Dubaiwali

I am sunni wahabi but I don't know if it matters. I guess I read some wrong information on a website. So its 4 months 10 days?

as i said its 3 haiz [mentural cycle] periods so depends when one gets a divorce. it could range from 3 monthe to 4 months and 10 days as i have heared...i never got divorce hahaha

Aisha Dubaiwali · Nov 8th, 2009, 11:45 AM

OMG this is so confusing! Thanks a lot I will go ask some maulvi or something!

Hashmat Usmani · Nov 8th, 2009, 11:49 AM

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Originally Posted by Aisha Dubaiwali

OMG this is so confusing! Thanks a lot I will go ask some maulvi or something!

ok...lol...haN...par mujhe lagtaa hai k maulvi saab sharmaa jaayenge sawaal ka jawaab dene meN haha

Aisha Dubaiwali · Nov 8th, 2009, 12:46 PM

I will ask someone else to go ask for me! Argh!

Mc12IT · Nov 8th, 2009, 01:00 PM

Mc12IT · Nov 8th, 2009, 01:02 PM

Iddat is established from The Holy Quran and the Hadith of Rasoolullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam). We cite the relevant verses in this regard: In Surah Baqarah Almighty Allah states:"And those women who are divorced, should keep themselves in waiting for three periods."This verse establishes the iddat for a woman who is divorced, such iddat being a period of three haidh according to the hanafi mazh-hab. In another verse in Surah Baqarah, Allah Ta'ala says:"And those among you who expire and leave behind wives, they (the wives) shall keep themselves in waiting for four months and ten days."