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Oct 23rd, 2009, 03:57 AM
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It happens, but I don't know why. Tell me.
2 people marry, at least one party is forced into it, prospects for a loving relationship don't look good, so WHY and HOW does it happen that it doesn't take them that long to "fall in love".
I don't get it. I mean I believe it happens, but WHY??? and HOW???
I mean, I could understand if the reluctant party were to be bribed with lots of cheese and crackers, but what if there were no cheese n crackers in the equation?
One must make a mark in this world, if I am remembered for anything, let it be cheese and crackers...
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Oct 23rd, 2009, 03:59 AM
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Hey theres no stopping love if its just meant to be...
it's the heart afraid of dying, that never learns to dance; It's the dream afraid of waking, that never takes the chance; It's the one who won't be taken, who cannot seem to give; And the soul afraid of dying, that never learns to live.
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Oct 23rd, 2009, 04:10 AM
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Yeah but how do u know it's meant to be until after it's happened? It has to happen for it to meant to be????
Seriously, the background factors do not help someone fall in love, i mean if they r reluctant.
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Oct 23rd, 2009, 05:25 AM
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stolkholm syndrome
OMG!!!
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Oct 23rd, 2009, 05:35 AM
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a/there are no expectations from the pary that wasn't willing to marry.
b/everyone has good n bad in them.it depends on which is more.
c/family support makes things easy.
d/the attitude n behavior of the couple with eachother plays a huge part.
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Oct 23rd, 2009, 06:46 AM
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i think falling in love after marriage has nothing to do wid its nature that whether it is forced or love marriage.
i have seen cases of infidelity even after love marriage.
If time is not real, then the dividing line between this world and eternity, between suffering and bliss, between good and evil, is also an illusion.
Last edited by Maverick_27; Oct 23rd, 2009 at 07:36 AM..
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Oct 23rd, 2009, 07:30 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by hitchki
stolkholm syndrome
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What if both parties r unwilling to marry, then who is the prisoner? Both???
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Oct 23rd, 2009, 07:31 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Maverick_27
i think falling in love after marriage has nothing to do wid its nature that whether it is forced or love marriage.
i have seen cases of infidently even after love marriage.
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Do u mean infidelity? This is not about fidelity, it's about falling in love.
WHO HAS BEEN THROUGH THIS, SHARE YOUR STORIES!
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Oct 23rd, 2009, 07:32 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by muniabegum
a/there are no expectations from the pary that wasn't willing to marry.
b/everyone has good n bad in them.it depends on which is more.
c/family support makes things easy.
d/the attitude n behavior of the couple with eachother plays a huge part.
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Interesting...
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Oct 23rd, 2009, 07:41 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by RupayHalwa
WHO HAS BEEN THROUGH THIS, SHARE YOUR STORIES!
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few of my friends are involved in such kind of things. i dont want to discuss it in details.
i was simply pointing out that falling in love after marriage can be happend in both type of marraiges.
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Oct 23rd, 2009, 08:33 AM
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You simply accept the other person.
The 5 stages of grief apply here:
1- Denial
2- Anger
3- Bargaining
4- Depression
5- Acceptance
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Oct 23rd, 2009, 09:03 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by zxcvb
You simply accept the other person.
The 5 stages of grief apply here:
1- Denial
2- Anger
3- Bargaining
4- Depression
5- Acceptance
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I like the way how you put it as "grief"!!!!! lolz
and yes all 5 points are a solid process that leads to "acceptance"
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Oct 23rd, 2009, 10:27 AM
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does having sex on regular basis plays some trick here ? 
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Oct 23rd, 2009, 10:28 AM
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no idea matey, was never forced into an arranged marriage.
"In the fight against the Monoculture, the main sign is the hijab, and the main act is the Prayer". T.J Winter
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Oct 23rd, 2009, 10:57 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Naabigh
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Why do I always read your nick as "Nabaligh" ? 
jisey hum sai milna, gawara nahee hai, hum sai mila na karey.....
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Oct 23rd, 2009, 12:33 PM
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Oct 23rd, 2009, 12:42 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Decent 6Chora
Why do I always read your nick as "Nabaligh" ? |
^ 
Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much.
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Oct 23rd, 2009, 01:25 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by hitchki
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Damn hitchki, I came into this thread to say exactly that! 
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Oct 23rd, 2009, 01:38 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by RupayHalwa
It happens, but I don't know why. Tell me.
2 people marry, at least one party is forced into it, prospects for a loving relationship don't look good, so WHY and HOW does it happen that it doesn't take them that long to "fall in love".
I don't get it. I mean I believe it happens, but WHY??? and HOW???
I mean, I could understand if the reluctant party were to be bribed with lots of cheese and crackers, but what if there were no cheese n crackers in the equation?
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I would find it more surprising that two people get married and not love each other after max 1 year... i mean how can you live with someone and sleep on the same bed every night and not like each other...
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Oct 23rd, 2009, 02:02 PM
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it happens a lot in asia a friend of mine has had terrible experience after having three boys and still his husband didnt like her its so mean and is going to divorce her coz his bhatiji was married to my firnds cousin and the bhatiji was such a vamp that she didnt want to settle and have a home she came back to her home at that stupid man gave divorce just coz her bhatiji was not happy with my frinds cousin
a marrige was based on few months her cousin
and my frined who got married for 16 years ......just got a divorce like that.
MAY ALLAH BLESS U ALL (AMEEN)
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