What would make a guy take decesion at his own?

BobbyZee · Oct 23rd, 2009, 04:28 PM

Question for ladies.

I totally respect you. I know any guy would be lucky to have any of you in his life.
But things happen. Ppl make silly moves.

My question: What is it if you do, guy would be justified to end ties.
Ending ties with out a consent or a proper closure.

Go wild. Add things whcih you can only think of and would never do.

MIAinVA · Oct 23rd, 2009, 04:46 PM

Who cares... its FRIDAYYYYYY.

NJMasti · Oct 23rd, 2009, 05:06 PM

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Originally Posted by BobbyZee

Question for ladies.

I totally respect you. I know any guy would be lucky to have any of you in his life.
But things happen. Ppl make silly moves.

My question: What is it if you do, guy would be justified to end ties.
Ending ties with out a consent or a proper closure.

Go wild. Add things whcih you can only think of and would never do.

Totally depends -

If in love with the guy - then roll down ocean of tears - there is not much to do

If not in love, then who cares? Somewhere deep down you know it's all good and you move on.

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Why ? who's heart are you about to break?

Who ever it is - be gentle

redvelvet · Oct 23rd, 2009, 05:13 PM

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Originally Posted by BobbyZee

Question for ladies.

I totally respect you. I know any guy would be lucky to have any of you in his life.
But things happen. Ppl make silly moves.

My question: What is it if you do, guy would be justified to end ties.
Ending ties with out a consent or a proper closure.

Go wild. Add things whcih you can only think of and would never do.

It's rude enough to simply walk away from someone when they are attempting to talk to you (and that too in a decent manner). It's rude enough to behave that way even with a mere acquaintance.

^We all make mistakes and let our fears and anger get the better of us sometimes. I know I've done that. But.........the mature thing is to let the person KNOW about why you're ending the relationship. It's unfair for you to allow yourself to MOVE ON completely without a second thought................and to leave the other person behind with a hundred unanswered questions plaguing their mind and robbing them of peace. That's not the way that any of us would like to be treated.

If you are in a relationship where you feel justified in calling it quits.......then be honest about it. The other person might be upset.......but at least you won't give the impression of being a coward. If the other person's negative behavior is the reason you're ending things...........then tell him/her that. Even if they don't agree with you.........they might reflect over their attitude for future relationships.

PSquared · Oct 23rd, 2009, 11:45 PM

Cheating/betrayal would probably the only thing deserving of absolutely no closure and pure suffering in my book.

Aside from that, you should have the guts to talk about things before leaving someone.

McPendo · Oct 24th, 2009, 12:47 AM

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Originally Posted by MIAinVA

Who cares... its FRIDAYYYYYY.

ahahahahah!

Cheegum · Oct 24th, 2009, 01:27 AM

People usually end ties without closure when they want a clean exit and they do not want to be even slightly accountable or responsible for the consequences. They do not want to give you the chance to question them for their decision. With no explanation given you search for answers under every pebble and behind every blade of grass. Its really tough and unfortunate but you will never find the answers you want. You just have to pick up your pieces and try to move on somehow.

Laanat haiy un kanjar ki aulaadoN par jo aisa kartay hain.

Deela · Oct 24th, 2009, 05:32 AM

If the person you made 'ties' with was sincere and did not make no mistake.

It is unjustified and also cowardly of you to simply 'dump' them.

Such men who use girls and then 'move on' deserve to get castrated.

U just stay away from me dude.

Hulahoop Queen · Nov 2nd, 2009, 01:06 PM

Hulahoop Queen · Nov 2nd, 2009, 01:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Cheegum

People usually end ties without closure when they want a clean exit and they do not want to be even slightly accountable or responsible for the consequences.

Sometimes people give closures, reasonings, explanations so they wont be holding any guilt on their own conscience - to keep their slate clean (oh I explained so the other person must understand). Only provide an explanation, if the other party is looking for it. If they don't wana talk about it, then please do them a favour and be the bad guy if you have to.

Sofya · Nov 2nd, 2009, 09:07 PM

Nothing you can do deserves a goodbye without a backwards glance.
That said, everyone has their own predefined notions of they will or will not stand for.

If they're serious, then yeah I guess cheating can come into it. Repeatedly doing something they asked you not to do, perhaps talking to certain people abt the relationship as girls do and they not being comfortable with it

If theyre not serious, then almost anything. Especially something which makes u less physically attractive to them cos thats all they were in it for

Gulnaar Khan · Nov 3rd, 2009, 01:26 AM

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Originally Posted by Cheegum

People usually end ties without closure when they want a clean exit and they do not want to be even slightly accountable or responsible for the consequences. They do not want to give you the chance to question them for their decision. With no explanation given you search for answers under every pebble and behind every blade of grass. Its really tough and unfortunate but you will never find the answers you want. You just have to pick up your pieces and try to move on somehow.

Laanat haiy un kanjar ki aulaadoN par jo aisa kartay hain.

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*Touche*

Beeti baatein yaad dila di aapne!

BobbyZee · Nov 5th, 2009, 10:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Cheegum

People usually end ties without closure when they want a clean exit and they do not want to be even slightly accountable or responsible for the consequences. They do not want to give you the chance to question them for their decision. With no explanation given you search for answers under every pebble and behind every blade of grass. Its really tough and unfortunate but you will never find the answers you want. You just have to pick up your pieces and try to move on somehow.

Laanat haiy un kanjar ki aulaadoN par jo aisa kartay hain.

what if every attempt of closer turns into a nasty fight. If not then it become a make up attempt.

BobbyZee · Nov 5th, 2009, 10:17 AM

Ok start giving out reasons. I will start with ones which are not too hardcore.
I let you guys decide where you would snap out and disappear.

Nothing is exclusive.
We spoke for few hrs on the phone when we first started. She was excited, I was excited too. I thought we had an amazing connection. 2 months later she tells me how she became friends with this other guy. Many times they spoke for hrs, and she said every thing about her conversation with him which she had said about our conversations. Some time it feels like she has those generic lines she uses for every man.

She makes me feel special BUT then there will some other guys who she will also be making feel special.

She would share the darkest secret of her life asking for help. You feel like ok I am the "one" she see her future with so she is sharing this with me. Next day she would say some like "tum sab ny yeh kia" AS every other guy did know the secrets and were ask for support.
Be mind full "sub" are other guys.

Do not quote please.

BobbyZee · Nov 5th, 2009, 10:25 AM

She wont allow you to even look at a girl. That is not very unreasonable.
But she would exchange phone no. with guys right in-front of your eyes.

If you confront her for doing it. She would say some thing like "loser reaction"

How can some one put up with such attitude??
Who here still thinks closer is necessary?

Do not quote please.

Afsoon · Nov 5th, 2009, 10:34 AM

I wouldn't "snap or disappear" at this point, if I were you.

I don't condone or agree with what your GF is doing... I mean, in my book, it's completely wrong/inappropriate for her to be talking to another guy for "hours", and telling him her "darkest secrets". But, before you jump the gun and severing ties, talk to her... and let her know that her behaviour is hurting you as well as relationship (assuming you haven't already done that?).