sweet_iez55

does it happen in a long term relationships???

that after a certain period of time, the intrest level gets lower from both the parties (or 1 party) , no matter how they loved each other in the early days, n how they are serious abt each other

if yes....
then what cud b the reason behind that

long term relationship?
involvement of 3rd person?
increment of resposnibilities of life as we get more mature day by day?

in other words, is it the love that fade away day by day, or is it some other reason?

ur comments plz............

NJMasti

^If that happens then I am just soooo glad to have an arranged marriage... cause I think our love INCREASES day by day.

Entisar

I think this LOVE word is confusing here, because , It may bear different meanings on various stages of life.
Initially the Individuals are so hot , Mostly want to be huged and kissed , but as time passes the warmness decreases
I think It wouldnot mean that LOVE/INTEREST Fades away, but the style changes and maturity developes.
In long term relationships Trust strengthens and dependency increases.
and the individuals even go for more compromises and commitments.

funky_chicken

awwwwwwwwwwww dats soo sweet.

Aisha Dubaiwali

From EXPERIENCE yes it does decrease

Decent 6Chora

MOST OF THE TIME, Interest level does not gets low, priorities do change but most of the time love stays and normally people (specially girls) take that as "reduction of love" or "reduction of interest"

For example, if in early days guy used to leave office 15 minutes earlier to reach home earlier, he cant do it for whole life, he has to go back to normal routine or even more to catch up. Similarly, used to be all ready at 5pm with tea/snack waiting for husband cant do that whole life, she gets other things to take care of like kids, cleaning etc.

These things should be dealt with appropriately and should not be taken as "lost of interest"

CuteGurl

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO it increases N increases n increases everyday

this is my 10th yr being anil's gf n still my symptoms are of a new gf..i blush at everything,love him like crazy n since 15th july 2000 till today all tht he has done is treat me like a princess (he calls me gurya princess too) we are totally madly in love with each other n theres nothing tht can change tht..we started dating when he was in skool since thn he has finished college,university,3yrs of job & i have done the same..we have practically grown up together but the love hasnt changed n i hope it never does!

MASHALLAH

fairywings85

im kinda feeling something similar to t his..and its a lond distance relationship too..soo i think thats a factor too.

fairywings85

*long

CuteGurl

i forgot to mentioned mine has been a long distance relationship too all along

Bint_e_Naeem

If its really love then it doesn't fade away but actually increases by day.

The only thing that changes is how you show it. As you grow older or your relationship matures you realize its not just those "I love you's" . It has many other ways of showing it self.

libranrulz

I think it is a misconception that people think that the love decreases as the relationship is older. What actually happens is that in the beginning of the relationship both the people are very touchy feely with raging hormones. As the time goes on and the relationship develops you tend to emphasize more on the important things like respect, trust and mutual understanding and things to normalize a bit after the initial flair. Some people do think that its the love that died after the initial stage, I think that its just that the relationship is growing and you are growing through the different phases.

sweet_iez55

mine is also a long term n long distance realationship, we love each other, wen ever he get back to my land, we try meet as much as we can, i still love him like crazy, he is always my first priority, but i can notice now that his intensity of love is decreasing, or it is bcz of his home n business responsibilities, as he is one of those who cant xpress himself easily, only once in a bluemoon he express his love.

I feel he is getting away from me day by day,or ignoring me , i dont kno whats happening out there, its just my assumption or sumthing else :S

PyariCgudia

Eventually, it will decrease...the lust that is. Then you just be friends - friends with benefits. With a mutually signed legal contract.

And kids.

And cars.

And a 2 door garage you have to share.

:-)

I can't wait to get married.

exotic

You mean it will not happen in a love marriage?

CuteGurl

when anil first started work i felt the same way...he is the only son so the responsibility of the house was on his shoulder he isnt very expressive either not by words or doing special things...i tease him by saying he is a software engineer so hes all into 101010 like a geek..anyways point being hes the same too but his care for me never decreased the way he showed it may hav slightly changed as first he would call me randomly atleast 2-3times a day to ask if my legs hurting (i hav a lil rod in my leg due to fracture although my legs completely normal he still he keeps asking me even after 3yrs) now he dosnt call as much but every nite bfr we go to sleep he asks atleast..i miss his random calls though but dosnt change how much he still loves me!!
you gota be understanding..im guessing ur 20ish (just a guess dont mind) im arnd tht too when i went thru the phase ur going thru the change was so hard for me i became naggy..isliye as an advice leme tell u problems wont stop here,Allah na karey kuch ho but u guys have stepped into the real life now things will come up left n right n hell have to handle situations from everywhere n hell need someones support or the choice to walk alone.I want u to understand if u are his support than u should know there are phases in relationships..in ur relationship love remains just the phase has changed..embrace the change smoothly n show him ur not just his gf u wana be his future wife too..embrace the change cuz when i did i started enjoying the benefits of these changes too (yes,there are quiet a few) I read somewhere once
He's not gonna quote poetry hes not gonna be thinking of you every moment but he will give you a part of him which he knows you could break

sadzzz

Not really. I think with time and understanding, the love grows and forms into an even better type of love.

In the beginning its kinda cutesy wootsy, but later, its more real. And I think, you do put more of an effort in later... not to woo them or or anything, but an effort to keep the relationship as strong as it is.. and to make it even stronger.

I think, with time, u understand each other more, and that in turn makes u want to put in the extra effort

ours was a love marriage.... and i dont think our love has died at all

sweet_iez55

aaww so sweet of u cutegurl n sadzz, by reading ur posts again i felt that spark that needs more efforts n care to make our relation even more stronger, but how can i alone put the efforts ,

well i'll try ma best, i wonder where i m lacking, may b it cud be like this as i feel ignorance from his side, i thought i shud also leave him to his wills, he'll aproach me wen he'll get time :S

was i wrong ?

sadzzz

^ thats the thing. Dont wait for the other party to do something. Just go out and do it! seriously... if u wanna look hot to grab their attention, by all means.. just do it! seriously... dont wait for it to happen.. u gotta just take the first step. And u'll see how things will just change

plus, the spark can die now and then... but its ur responsbility to keep it alive..

sweet_iez55

^sadzz u r right, i got some negative thoughts from himside those put me stay away from him, i dont write him mails like b4, i dont text him as i did b4, i think its bcz some ego took place in ma heart,

dear em too bad at xpressing ma self too, can u help me guiding some tips n tricks if u can, or u can pm me too

thanks a bunch