Should i be a loving or controling husband? - Page 7

GSUK · Oct 31st, 2009, 08:15 AM

yea Diwana

GSUK · Oct 31st, 2009, 08:49 AM

IIXXII your post was so helpful, i have written it down to help me out lol. IIXXII so u think it wud b right thing to do if i did dat?

Cud u all please give ur thoughts on ...How bad is it if husband doesnt get involved with the girls family?? or just speak to the wife n not anyone else? Islamically, is dis acceptable? n also, culturally, can a husband get away with doing that? or is it a big NO NO.
I think this subject warrants a thread in its own right lol.
Diwana Ur right i thought i knew everytin abt relationships but marriage seems like a completely new territory, its like u dn marry d person but the whole family n das d problem for me. I havent got a clue what to do with them but i wil learn.

shk_14 · Oct 31st, 2009, 06:27 PM

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Originally Posted by GSUK

Thanks everyone for ur input particularly diwana, mall n psquared. You have all been great. Diwana i know it does affect me sumtyms man like Im very stressed today because i jus had a massive row with my family n dey r not happy with me which makes me feel guilty, angry n stressed. My parents r constantly givin me examples of my cuzions n how they listen to their parents, control their wives whilst im bein 'begherat' in their opinion. It gets me mad cz ur ryt my family shud b grateful dat i got married to d girl of their choice (at dat time) but dey conveniently forgot that time now.
My wifes mentality is very different to myn which dn help me. Oh wel It shud b aite afta a while. im sure there r people who have alot worse situation dan me so its nt too bad. Hopefuly she wud b half sensible n we wud get thru it n den we wil live happily ever after, lol yea i fukin wish.

here u sounds like a nice person may Allah bless u and ur wive to coperate with u inshAllah to have a balance and succcessful life.(ameen)

diwana · Oct 31st, 2009, 11:58 PM

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Originally Posted by GSUK

IIXXII your post was so helpful, i have written it down to help me out lol. IIXXII so u think it wud b right thing to do if i did dat?

Cud u all please give ur thoughts on ...How bad is it if husband doesnt get involved with the girls family?? or just speak to the wife n not anyone else? Islamically, is dis acceptable? n also, culturally, can a husband get away with doing that? or is it a big NO NO.
I think this subject warrants a thread in its own right lol.
Diwana Ur right i thought i knew everytin abt relationships but marriage seems like a completely new territory, its like u dn marry d person but the whole family n das d problem for me. I havent got a clue what to do with them but i wil learn.

Thanks my friend.

If you do not want to then no need to be so close to family of her side. Not mandatory. But with time when you have children you will eventually need to.

Before marriage single girls and men are kinda rough, too idealistic, self loving or self centered, and marriage makes them more polished and diplomatic.

Just as a joke: Why do you want to lose the chance of good food and Daawat from her side of family? :-)