Looks, casual attire, and relocation!

Lusi · Nov 1st, 2009, 11:51 PM

I know this topic has been beaten to death and we all say that looks don't matter much (only in ideal world ), otherwise they do. So besides other things, how much they should matter...

Oh and what is up with guys presenting themselves in extremely casual attire and expecting hoors in return.

This calls for another thread but I will dump it here aswell. How do you prepare yourself to move to a different (city/state), quit your job, and start from 1st step?

I wonder if people even realize that relocation is such a big step and the person relocating needs lot of support from their better half...

PyariCgudia · Nov 1st, 2009, 11:57 PM

You mean moving for jobs/school or like moving to your husband's home. I'm confused about your attire question?

sadzzz · Nov 2nd, 2009, 12:02 AM

In relation to ur question about guys in casual attire.... if u want them to dress a lil more formally... just tell them. They'll listen

X2 · Nov 2nd, 2009, 12:12 AM

casual and hoor are not mutually exclusive.
casual does not mean slob
and hoor does not mean someone in a dinner gown and makeup and jewelry.
so the terminologies are incorrect.

so moving away from terminologies, and getting to the core of your question, i think u are saying, why do some guys dress like slobs yet expect their wives to be dress up, well those guys need a swift kick in the dingdongs. or better yet, the wife asking him to dress better, or helping him dress better.

Now typically I have seen these complaints from desi stay at home wives who would dress up in the evenings while the husband who has been in a monkey suit all day at work just wants to be in something more comfortable, not to say that nice looking clothes cant be comfy. either way if the wife helps the dude figure stuff out it would be good.

now as far as people relocating, it does not happen just because of marriage but even after marriage for career reasons. If the person moving needs extra support and is not getting it perhaps the sane approach would be to just talk.

lastly, when ladies talk about husbands not being supportive 'enough' in such matters, you have to realize that they did not come fully programmed and dont often know what is needed by the other person, and their own lives have seen major changes as well that they are dealing with.

key = communication

NaMaan · Nov 2nd, 2009, 12:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Lusi

I know this topic has been beaten to death and we all say that looks don't matter much (only in ideal world ), otherwise they do. So besides other things, how much they should matter...

Oh and what is up with guys presenting themselves in extremely casual attire and expecting hoors in return.

This calls for another thread but I will dump it here aswell. How do you prepare yourself to move to a different (city/state), quit your job, and start from 1st step?

I wonder if people even realize that relocation is such a big step and the person relocating needs lot of support from their better half...

1. Looks do matter . But your personality and wisdom matters more .

2. They wana show that see how badly they need you to fix their attire .

3. Yes its hard . But self reliance is always good .

Lusi · Nov 2nd, 2009, 01:02 AM

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Originally Posted by X2

casual and hoor are not mutually exclusive.
casual does not mean slob
and hoor does not mean someone in a dinner gown and makeup and jewelry.
so the terminologies are incorrect.

so moving away from terminologies, and getting to the core of your question, i think u are saying, why do some guys dress like slobs yet expect their wives to be dress up, well those guys need a swift kick in the dingdongs. or better yet, the wife asking him to dress better, or helping him dress better.

Now typically I have seen these complaints from desi stay at home wives who would dress up in the evenings while the husband who has been in a monkey suit all day at work just wants to be in something more comfortable, not to say that nice looking clothes cant be comfy. either way if the wife helps the dude figure stuff out it would be good.

now as far as people relocating, it does not happen just because of marriage but even after marriage for career reasons. If the person moving needs extra support and is not getting it perhaps the sane approach would be to just talk.

lastly, when ladies talk about husbands not being supportive 'enough' in such matters, you have to realize that they did not come fully programmed and dont often know what is needed by the other person, and their own lives have seen major changes as well that they are dealing with.

key = communication

Ok, yeah i agree wrong terminology.... you can be dressed casual but still look neat and presentable.

What do you do when you are not even a wife. I mean you are introduced to a guy and he comes out/sends a pic in a very casual/somewhat sloppy attire but you have been told 10k good things about him.

CM · Nov 2nd, 2009, 02:11 AM

Guilty as charged. I have been accused by my european friends of having an american sense of style/dress. Yes its an insult. I for one dress in jeans, army boots and a shirt. That is about it. I don't shave much every 3 or 4 days. My boots are always dusty and different shades of brown and black, my jeans look like i went wrestling in the sand and my shirt is normally ironed.

That is what you mean right?

Monk · Nov 2nd, 2009, 11:55 AM

Don't worry too much about mama's boys. Who land from their mom-lap right into their wife's.
There are a million thing in person to appreciate then looks and handi-rooti.

I bet all those casuals looking for hoors got it easy with mums and family taking care of them.
So they are unable to appreciate what a person have to offer beyond the shallow-ness they crave for.

funguy · Nov 2nd, 2009, 12:01 PM

I am metrosexual and deserve my hoor! Eat my shorts.

TLK · Nov 2nd, 2009, 12:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Lusi

Oh and what is up with guys presenting themselves in extremely casual attire and expecting hoors in return.
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Rugged, unshaved, dirty jeans, Marlboro man/Abishek Bacchan look is not for every one. In fact, that look is only an 'on camera' look. In real life, nothing beats clean and decent personality. One can be in Jeans and Tshirt but should always make sure that he should not look like a homless person.