Niksik

Title of a famous book...

But what are your views on verbally abusive relationships...not just between spouses but other family members as well? Do you think women are more snappy with their tongues or men?



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Sara516

Good GOD i thought u were being literal...

Monk

chanda_kh

Nature vs Nurture

we all have tongues, but how we use them...to say and spread good, or evil, its up to the individual person and their tarbiyat.

on a second note, men can be snappy too..I would hate to have Jerry Seinfeld as a spouse in real life..a lot of the snappy sort of men are snappy for different reasons than women..it could be a defense mechanism..or a "smarty-pants" act..whatever it may be...whatever gender....the tongue has a mind of its own.

Pareezay

If speaking of marriages, I think most women can tolerate alot more than their husbands and can definitely hold back their tongue. They have to do it to maintain the peace in their marriage especially if there are kids around. I have definitely seen more husbands being snappy and saying things without thinking while the wives stay quiet. In desi culture, it's mostly because they have too much respect for their husbands to say anything back.

funguy

nothing sharper than a woman's tongue...sorry for the sexist remark here but I am yet to be proven wrong - inside and outside of family.

A pissed off woman can spill scorpions, swords, arrows...

Monk

ahmadjee

Myers briggs type personality profiles would argue that such people ( / women) can't help it. It's in their personality to talk - think - talk, i.e. speak before thinking. When one is angry, man or woman, s/he lose control and act according to his/her genes.

Sara516

I hate to admit it but i think its true

The amount of things I think about, that I never speak (well not to that person), that go through my head...... I would kill myself if i heard anyone say them to me.

But thn again i know some guys like that to...so maybe its a personality trait rather than a gendered thing.

MIAinVA

I think its a personality trait that has nothing to do with gender. The things my husband says to people who make him mad or annoy him, on their face (tauba)........ I can never say such things

Decent 6Chora

although depends on the personality but "qainchee walee" zuban are found more in female sex than male.

Niksik

Correct me if I am wrong but is there a hadith that suggests there will be more women in jahannum because of their tongue issues?

Decent 6Chora

you are right and there is saying by Hazrat Ali which can be summarized as k

"zuban hee insan ko jannat main aur zuban he insan ko dauzakh main lai jayee gee...it is the best and worst part of human body"

Jaanwar

Pardon my drift but "hung by the tongue" sounds dirty

clothesmad

Hubby says my tongue is sharper than his Gillette Mac 3

Decent 6Chora

and it never stains unlike Mac 3 ?

Niksik

oops, it does? It's the name of a bestseller

Shak09

Women can hold their toungue? Whoa I just saw that its raining pigs outside!