DaffyDuck

Many girls have been through the phase when the boy is full crazy about her. He just cannot have enough of you. He tends to say the sweetest things, do the craziest things, go to the highest extent for her to accept him, drool over the girl they like. Even with me before i got engaged, some guys used to propose and profess such big dreams and promises. I really wonder sometimes that all the pre-marriage promises are they actually fulfilled later or not?

Till the girl says yes, boys would even say i would let you work if you want to or not, I would not force you to clean up, i will help you with the house hold chores, we will go out everyday, i will love you more than anything, you will be my priority, i will not spend as much time with my friends, i will buy whatever you want to get, i will take you for a vacation every year, if mum says anything i would not blindly take her side ill try and give you priority, i will take you to your mum's house whenever you want to, i will respect your parents, i will buy you diamonds etc.

All such promises, were they actually fulfilled when you got married or was it just a pre-marriage way to just get hold of your interest? Were the promised things actually implemented in reality or the practical life actually turned out nothing like what was promised?

tammy8604

Before getting married, most people have this vision of a perfect life ahead of them. Lets not forget that women also make promises they don't keep;
"I'll be happy with whatever you earn",
"I wont spend too much on clothes and shoes" ,
"I'll cook delicious meals everyday"
and the list goes on...

The problem is that people change after getting married due to many reasons. Theres so much responsibility and stress involved in marriage and no one is perfect. I dont think that people make promises just to get a hold of your interest, they actually mean it because they think life will turn out the way they hope. Unfortunately, life is too tough to turn out perfect.

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Lol. Story of my life... Half of the promises were fulfilled during first month of marriage, some stayed alive till the first anniversary, one or two still exist

It's good to see I am not the only one

Decent 6Chora

woh wada hee kia jo wafa ho jayee

zobia

lol. we girls need to stop dreaming of building a fantasyland on someone else's money.

NJMasti

In arranged marriage - there is no boy meets girl story - so there are no wada's

Decent 6Chora

^ thats the best part ..... no wada, not high expectations .....

MIAinVA

^ Even with no waadas, we do have expectations

Decent 6Chora

I said not HIGH expectations

MIAinVA

^haan, magar yahaan tau normal expectations bhi poori nahin hoti

I expected a non-messy person and look at what I got instead ... haaaye

NJMasti

so true!

Decent 6Chora

If by this you mean you are asking him to change socks every day, thats quite a big ask from a guy ..sorry to say ~!

Enigmatica

lol..well yea in arranged marriages one is so worried about things like acceptability, compatibility, insecurities about the next person, settling in and most of all one is prepared for anything as we do not usually KNOW the person we are getting married to in the arranged nusiness...
so yea the expectations do no rocket sky high..

but in case of luv marriages or marriages after steady relationships, things do become a little difficult as living with a person is entirely different as compared to frequent hangouts romantic dates or fone talks all night. some weaknesses are only unfolded whilst one is living with someone .

so its not that promises are not fulfilled. both parties try their best but the initial stress and responsibility just makes things a little difficult. though the love is always there..

MIAinVA

Decent 6chora -

I mean don't leave wet towels on the bed. Its not for drying towels, its for sleeping.
And please don't start a dirty mug collection on that small side table in the corner that I usually don't check, last time I checked for my missing mugs, I found 5 stinky ones .... ewwww.

Decent 6Chora

Its your mistake that you dont check each and every table. you SHOULD

Lucid Chaotic

A mirror image of the original post if I may:

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Many guys have been through the phase when the girl is full crazy about him. She just cannot have enough of you. She tends to say the sweetest things, do the craziest things, go to the highest extent for him to accept her, drool over the guy they like. Even with me before I got married, some girls used to propose and profess such big dreams and promises. I really wonder sometimes that all the pre-marriage promises are they actually fulfilled later or not?

Till the guy says yes, girls would even say I wouldn’t care how much or how little you earn as long as we have a happy life together, I would not force you buy me clothes and shoes every week, I won't measure your love by the number of diamonds that you buy for me, I will help you with the running the household if there’s a need, I will love you more than anything, you will be my priority, I will not act as if your whole family is my staunch enemy and is out to get me somehow, I will get along with my in-laws, I will respect your parents etc.

All such promises, were they actually fulfilled when you got married or was it just a pre-marriage way to just get hold of your interest? Were the promised things actually implemented in reality or the practical life actually turned out nothing like what was promised?
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Bint_e_Naeem

Most of the promises mentioned are non practical. We never promised each other anything. If its really love. Who needs assurances in the form of promises. That means you don't love the person but the conditions.

PSquared

I wouldnt believe anything a guy says before marriage...especially meethi meethi baatein.

He can haanp and kaanp all he wants...actions are louder then words and until I see it...I aint buyin it.

McPendo

This is what we call slavery!