What a HOT MESS!!!

Satrangi · Nov 5th, 2009, 11:13 PM

Yeah Ive got a friend - no really its a friend people.

She has been married for about 7 years, has two kids and a loving husband. They have their own home and are living a comfortable life, no serious problems or issues between them.

Except -

She wants him to be romantic and affectionate and he isnt! He is so FOBBY it hurts! He is not romantic and thinks loving her means loving the kids. He is not expressive or exciting and she misses the spice in their marriage. She has talked to him about this numerous times, made efforts and even tried to initiate things between them. But to no avail...he is too tired all the time.

Anyway, what happened is someone from her past got in touch with her and they have been chatting for a few weeks now. Its just a friendship and completely online but he compliments her, flatters her and makes her all giggly. Mind you, he is also married with two of his own kids.

I know its wrong but what on earth is wrong with Mr Fobalicious? Why cant he do something nice and fun for her just ONCE?

NaMaan · Nov 5th, 2009, 11:26 PM

Sorry to say but Mrs. Fobalicious is trying to cover her 'acts' in the veil of Mr. Fobalicious' innocence . The person who has to get her act straight is not Mr. but Mrs. Marriage is a commitment and not a TV show that you can switch if you are not feeling excited or entertained . I think your friend definitely need friends but someone like you , who are sincere and willing to help, and not like the one who is just flirting .

princessjojo · Nov 5th, 2009, 11:31 PM

^that

libranrulz · Nov 5th, 2009, 11:45 PM

ditto

sadzzz · Nov 5th, 2009, 11:50 PM

is Satrangi the Mrs?

CM · Nov 5th, 2009, 11:54 PM

What the only man to post in this thread said. The woman needs to keep her legs crossed.

Mc12IT · Nov 6th, 2009, 12:06 AM

What if her husband was not just unromantic but also a woman beater and a cheater? She is very unthankful to be very honest.. at least he has given her the respect & love she needs as a wife.. it's really not the end of the world for her not getting bollywood lines from her husband's mouth.. plus she should be ashamed of her self being online chatting with a man who she thinks is a "friend" yeah right.. one crap leads to another crap.

PSquared · Nov 6th, 2009, 02:20 AM

Niksik · Nov 6th, 2009, 02:25 AM

Can she tell that to her husband? Can her chat buddy tell that to his wife? If no then something isn't right. You don't just make chat friends that you look out for regularly...it always ends up in a mess.

RupayHalwa · Nov 6th, 2009, 02:33 AM

Tell her if it's nothing then she won't mind telling her husband that she's met this man online and the contents of their chat. If she doesn't want to, then she should realise that there's something more sinister about it.

tammy8604 · Nov 6th, 2009, 05:59 AM

why did she marry someone so fobby in the first place??
Well she needs to really tell her husband how much its bugging her.

pyaare · Nov 6th, 2009, 06:13 AM

she needs to stop chatting to this 'friend' because its wrong.
if her hubby doesnt spice up their lives...she should i'm sure he wouldn't mind

Aisha Dubaiwali · Nov 6th, 2009, 06:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Mc12IT

What if her husband was not just unromantic but also a woman beater and a cheater? She is very unthankful to be very honest.. at least he has given her the respect & love she needs as a wife.. it's really not the end of the world for her not getting bollywood lines from her husband's mouth.. plus she should be ashamed of her self being online chatting with a man who she thinks is a "friend" yeah right.. one crap leads to another crap.

last sentence is a bit extreme but you spoke my mind mate

funguy · Nov 6th, 2009, 07:33 AM

I don't agree with posters who are saying that the hubby is atleast not a wife beater. What the hell. He is responsible for satisfying her needs other than roti, kapra aur makaan. If he is not then he will pay the price...actually he already is paying the price as another man has made way into his wife's heart, albeit thru chat.

People-O, marriage doesn't end after the wife pops out a couple of babies.

tammy8604 · Nov 6th, 2009, 07:34 AM

^
well said

Scratch · Nov 6th, 2009, 08:08 AM

So amazing mashaAllah. Trust us for finding justifications for anything and everything.

Ahsan111 · Nov 6th, 2009, 08:52 AM

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Originally Posted by NaMaan

Sorry to say but Mrs. Fobalicious is trying to cover her 'acts' in the veil of Mr. Fobalicious' innocence . The person who has to get her act straight is not Mr. but Mrs. Marriage is a commitment and not a TV show that you can switch if you are not feeling excited or entertained . I think your friend definitely need friends but someone like you , who are sincere and willing to help, and not like the one who is just flirting .

I could not agree more

Gaia · Nov 6th, 2009, 08:55 AM

How about Mr. and Mrs.Fobalicious & the chat buddy all on chat togather!

That could bring some excitement!

Seef · Nov 6th, 2009, 09:29 AM

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Originally Posted by NaMaan

Sorry to say but Mrs. Fobalicious is trying to cover her 'acts' in the veil of Mr. Fobalicious' innocence . The person who has to get her act straight is not Mr. but Mrs. Marriage is a commitment and not a TV show that you can switch if you are not feeling excited or entertained . I think your friend definitely need friends but someone like you , who are sincere and willing to help, and not like the one who is just flirting .

That is a pretty easy cop out. Blame the wife for the husband's sexual dysfunctions. This guy needs to see a doctor and talk to him about his ED. His soldier is probably a retired veteran now and he needs to do something about it.

The girl caught up with an old friend. It's not like she's sleeping with him already. It could lead to it. But the husband has to swallow his pride and see a doctor.

Mamaof3 · Nov 6th, 2009, 09:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Seef

The girl caught up with an old friend. It's not like she's sleeping with him already. It could lead to it. But the husband has to swallow his pride and see a doctor.

Sorry I disagree here. Flirting and getting emotionally involved with a member of the opposite sex is cheating too. You can cheat with your mind as well as with your body. How would YOU feel if your spouse carried on flirting in chatrooms with a member of the opposite sex?

She is wrongwrongwrong. Many men are not romantically inclined - my own husband included. He is the best husband and father on the planet. But his sense of romance is absent. And if thats my biggest problem then Mashallah for me!!!! So what - I dont get moonlight and roses. I DO get a wonderful husband and father. And on those rare occasions when I get a bouquet of roses or a super-special loving hug then I know that its something REALLY REALLY special.

This gal needs to get a grip on the things that matter in life and to be thankful for what she has instead of spitting on her husband by flirting with other men.