getting pregnant after child lost

samnawab · Sep 30th, 2009, 09:39 AM

Salaam all,

I've been trying for months now to get pregnant again, after I lost my baby, she was 3 weeks old and had a congenital decease.

Unfortunately there is no succes. I can't get pregnant, also my periods are going everywhere. It's been 11 months now, and I am getting very desperate, because all in my family are pregnant and I am the only one who isn't.

My husband is masha-allah very supportive. Bless him, he's always there for me.
Please think about us in your prays.
Does anybody has any good tips for me?

Sanam

Mamaof3 · Sep 30th, 2009, 09:46 AM

Sanam I am so very sorry for your loss.

Have you visited a Reproductive Endocrinologist? Also known as "fertility specialists", they can figure out why you arent having success. Its the best place to start.

I wish you all the best and will say a prayer for you.

SaadiaB · Sep 30th, 2009, 09:51 AM

Oh I am sorry for your loss

CuteGurl · Sep 30th, 2009, 10:28 AM

im no specialist infact i hvnt ever been married but i have heard tht when u in stress its hard to conceive i watched it on some fertility realted show on tv doc was advicing to stay relaxed n take it as it comes but do visit the fertility specialist..dont worry Allah has something in store for u

CorruptAngel · Sep 30th, 2009, 12:14 PM

Sorry for your loss. Maybe your body is still recovering? I'll pray for you!

Janat ki Talash · Sep 30th, 2009, 02:43 PM

dear sorry for ur loss but dont be upset. Inshallah everything thing will be ok. i also wait a long and now Alhumdullilah Allah blessed me.

U will be in prayers now, Inshallah.

diamond321 · Oct 1st, 2009, 12:06 AM

some1 i know lost her baby girl after few mins she was born. She was shattered completely. I over heard her tell someone that she used to pray Salat-e-Tasbeeh every friday for another child. Thanks to Almight Allah she got pregnant again within a year I think and was blessed with a adorable baby girl. ( I will try to ask her personally if I get a chance regarding the dua or recitation and shall PM u !)

my prayers are with u ...i know it must be very hard on you ..........have faith on Allah He will bless u with a baby Insha Allah

TabuB · Oct 1st, 2009, 10:23 AM

salat ul tasbeeh is very long, but very rewarding...your sins fall off u as if leaves off a tree-i have heard this...

Inshallah you will have a beautiful healthy baby very soon, just dont think about it...when Allah knows its right for you it will happen inshallah.....you'd rather wait than God fobid go through something like that again...so just trust Allah Paak..whatever he does....does 4 the best inshallah..will remember u in my duas...God bless u

midnighteyes · Oct 1st, 2009, 11:43 AM

May Allah make this difficult time easy for you and bless you with a baby soon, Ameen!
I agree with the suggestion to see a fertility specialist, as they would be in the best position to advise you. Also if your periods are all over the place, you might to start charting or monitoring, to ensure first that you are ovulating and second to determine when you are ovulating to increase your chances. Insha Allah everything is okay and there is no problem, sometimes these things just take time!! I know its easier said than done, but try not to stress too much *hugs*

Here are some articles with baby-making tips, maybe they will help. Above increase in your dua and istaghfar

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samnawab · Oct 1st, 2009, 12:06 PM

Thank you all very much for your dua's and helps.
Diamond 321, I will be very greatfull if you can get me that.

I am trying my best, but it will always be very hard.

desigirl786 · Oct 3rd, 2009, 03:19 PM

My cousin had a miscarriage after 4 or 5 months into her first pregnancy because of a hemorrage. Almost a month and a half later, she got pregnant again and I believe everything is fine.

jalebi121 · Oct 4th, 2009, 11:11 PM

Aww that's very sad to have her taken away from you. Perhaps you could ask for genetic testing for you and your husband in case there is some common defective gene. InshAllah you will have a healthy child soon.

Sapphirez · Oct 5th, 2009, 03:47 AM

May ALLAH TALLAH bless you with healthy baby..AMEEN!......

Barfii · Oct 14th, 2009, 11:39 AM

I'm sorry to hear of your loss... And I hope, InshAllah, you will conceive very soon..Ameen..

If your periods are all over the place/irregular, then there is a herbal supplement that can help to regulate them. It's called "Angus Cactus" and can be found at normal herbal shops (Holland & Barrett if your in the UK)..

Also, try getting some Ovulation Predictor Kits (OPKs).. These will help you to identify when you are ovulating and when you should "try" to conceive..

I'm currently trying to conceive now following a miscarriage last year so I can imagine how uspsetting it is to have difficulties in trying to conceive again..

Good luck..